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In a woman's body, would you want to be dominated by a man or a woman, or both?

Oh so you’re a screamer? I’d love to see what I could do for a little outburst. I’d like to leave you barely hanging on, mentally fried from what you’ve just experienced.

Don’t worry, I’ll tell you if you’re doing a good job. My talk is sweet, but my actions sting ☺️

Nipple slut, because I love sessions focused on nipple torture with fingers and toes.

As I have a preference for impact... Bastinado (caning the bottoms of the feet) is something I cannot resist nearly as well as impact anywhere else. Strike me anywhere else and it will take 2x the force to achieve the same level of pain as bastinado in my estimation. Nipple clamps - leave them on for an extended period of time. It hurts a bit at the beginning, then starts to dull, but after enough time, it hurts intensely. The worst (or best?) part is the fact that by this point, removing them does not in fact relieve the pain but increase it as blood flow re-enters the previously compressed tissue. Now, the nipples are 10x more sensitive and lightly flicking, squeezing, or rolling them is excruciating. However, this sensation quickly fades. To bring it all back, simply put them back on and start again... Evil sticks - I have not yet seen one at the Fortress (maybe this ends up causing them to be stocked! hahaha) but it has the 'bite' sensation of a whip while being relatively tiny and utterly simple to use by comparison. A whip can be unwieldy, requires space to swing it properly, tricky to aim, and required considerable practice to use effectively in a session to achieve the effect. An evil stick has none of these issues and produces an equal amount of stinging pain, if not more depending on the type of carbon fiber used. Very much worth a try if you like impact.

I don't know if it's an "appeal" for me, but the interesting part of it for me is that in my opinion, our clothing is our "armor" in social contexts, so-to-speak. Clothing conveys a message, especially in a BDSM dynamic. Sometimes clothes are social armor in an explicit sense, such as when people were T-shirts with logos or quotes. There's the message and the subtext. "I'm wearing this brand, and this brand is known for this feeling, so associate that feeling with me." Or maybe you're not wearing something so obvious, like a button-up collared shirt and slacks. However, this still sends a message. It could signal membership in a group, "I'm like all the other people in collared shirts and slacks" or it could convey a personal sense of style. In this realm of BDSM, the leather, latex, heels, stockings, etc. usually convey a message of dominance with a subtext of maximum female power, "Not only am I sexy, but I can use it to control you - submit!" Conversely, the lack of clothing to me feels like power stripped away (figuratively and literally). I have no armor, I have no defenses, I am naked. I am vulnerable. In a private BDSM session, maybe the nakedness serves a practical purpose - I am physically vulnerable to impact and other things. In a social setting, I'm mentally vulnerable - who is looking? are they judging me? are they laughing at me? what do they think of me? With clothes, we control how we appear in social settings, but without them we do not. In addition, it's likely heightened by the fact that everyone else is clothed. In such an exibitionist setting, for example, I am vulnerable and everyone else isn't, which can amplify a D/s power dynamic, I think.

Hmm... I actually do not enjoy looking at my reflection, especially during a session. Some of it is for the reasons you mentioned (confusion & shame) but in my case it can snap me out of subspace during a session which I do not like. My favorite thing during a session is how I feel during increasingly intense impact play. I have a bit of a tolerance to impact, but as time progresses, the stress and pain from the strikes start to build up, and as the strikes keep coming in volume and intensity, I can feel my mental walls break down one-by-one. My ability to 'grin and bear it' through the main starts to weaken. At the start of impact, maybe my only reaction is a twitch or a small grunt. Eventually, twitches become shaking and grunts progress to yelling and eventually to screaming. Toward the crescendo of an impact session, as my walls come down, it feels like a mental version of tunnel vision - everything else just fades out and all I can feel are the sting, burn, and ache of the strikes. Eventually, I have no more defenses left and I'm mentally "raw" even light touches inspire an involuntary jump and a wail the same as the worst cane strike could. Thoughts cease to be and I can only feel, and only in the moment. It's a wonderful feeling.

I prefer to just be called by my name. I'm not interested in degrading talk in session. I know it's a common feature in most of the media in the BDSM space, but it's a bit off-putting to me. I prefer encouragement and praise rather than the insults or the verbal attempts to tear me down. Sometimes, the degrading talk can take me out of subspace. I don't mind demanding language, or even being told to do something considered degrading, but the whole "yeah bitch you're so pathetic you slut" just doesn't do it for me, and usually snaps me out of subspace. Just call me by my name and tell me to do the degrading act sweetly! ha

What is your appeal with spit? Do you find it dirty and sexual? Or is it just strictly degrading for you? Do you have a preference for where? Like when I’d spit in your mouth or do you like it somewhere else? Or are you one that simply likes to be covered in it?

Fart freak goes hard 💀

I would be more curious to explore what it would be like to dominate a woman. Maybe after that, explore the submissive inclinations of a woman. I think gaining a greater insight into a woman's POV, on either side of the equation would be a highly enlightening experience. So many feminine mysteries to learn about.

Definitely my moniker Aromalover or Aroma. It was something simple I came up with when I was 15 to encompass my love for scent & my fart fetish. After I began sessioning it really became cemented in place for me and Ive found other dommes enjoyed the nickname as well. Ive also been called fart sniffer & fart freak as well lol.

What’s your favorite thing to be called and why? Bitch, slut, pathetic, etc.? Or is there a particular name you like?

I think I'm with you here. I don't see my inclinations going the other way. However, I would want to try dominating men and women separately and together, while I'm in male form.

In this scenario, are you a female dominant or woman? Is your submissive or dominant male or female?

Personally, when I see your face I want to do fun, cruel, things to you. I can't imagine any other woman not having that reaction. But I guess there's always someone out there...

Would you want to dominate a woman or a man or both? No interest in exploring submission from a woman's POV at all?

I think I’m so solid in my fundamental self that I don’t see myself flipping to preferring being dominant over submissive. I would most likely explore things I can’t do as a man, like seeing what a female orgasm feels like

I suspect they’d change. How much is difficult to gauge. The power exchange element would not be the same, so I believe would not be as appealing to me. I could certainly envision putting a partner in bondage and receiving as much oral pleasure as I could take. Beyond that, more thought is going to be required to provide a sufficient response to your question.

I don’t know. I wonder if I came across a picture of my male self if it would generate a strong desire to kick my ass.

Interesting question. Would definitely want to explore the other side. Interests and instincts would shift in more ways than one could anticipate. It would be fascinating to genuinely experience what the Dominatrix does, especially her thoughts and emotions.