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I don't know if it's an "appeal" for me, but the interesting part of it for me is that in my opinion, our clothing is our "armor" in social contexts, so-to-speak. Clothing conveys a message, especially in a BDSM dynamic. Sometimes clothes are social armor in an explicit sense, such as when people were T-shirts with logos or quotes. There's the message and the subtext. "I'm wearing this brand, and this brand is known for this feeling, so associate that feeling with me." Or maybe you're not wearing something so obvious, like a button-up collared shirt and slacks. However, this still sends a message. It could signal membership in a group, "I'm like all the other people in collared shirts and slacks" or it could convey a personal sense of style. In this realm of BDSM, the leather, latex, heels, stockings, etc. usually convey a message of dominance with a subtext of maximum female power, "Not only am I sexy, but I can use it to control you - submit!" Conversely, the lack of clothing to me feels like power stripped away (figuratively and literally). I have no armor, I have no defenses, I am naked. I am vulnerable. In a private BDSM session, maybe the nakedness serves a practical purpose - I am physically vulnerable to impact and other things. In a social setting, I'm mentally vulnerable - who is looking? are they judging me? are they laughing at me? what do they think of me? With clothes, we control how we appear in social settings, but without them we do not. In addition, it's likely heightened by the fact that everyone else is clothed. In such an exibitionist setting, for example, I am vulnerable and everyone else isn't, which can amplify a D/s power dynamic, I think.

Hmm... I actually do not enjoy looking at my reflection, especially during a session. Some of it is for the reasons you mentioned (confusion & shame) but in my case it can snap me out of subspace during a session which I do not like. My favorite thing during a session is how I feel during increasingly intense impact play. I have a bit of a tolerance to impact, but as time progresses, the stress and pain from the strikes start to build up, and as the strikes keep coming in volume and intensity, I can feel my mental walls break down one-by-one. My ability to 'grin and bear it' through the main starts to weaken. At the start of impact, maybe my only reaction is a twitch or a small grunt. Eventually, twitches become shaking and grunts progress to yelling and eventually to screaming. Toward the crescendo of an impact session, as my walls come down, it feels like a mental version of tunnel vision - everything else just fades out and all I can feel are the sting, burn, and ache of the strikes. Eventually, I have no more defenses left and I'm mentally "raw" even light touches inspire an involuntary jump and a wail the same as the worst cane strike could. Thoughts cease to be and I can only feel, and only in the moment. It's a wonderful feeling.

I prefer to just be called by my name. I'm not interested in degrading talk in session. I know it's a common feature in most of the media in the BDSM space, but it's a bit off-putting to me. I prefer encouragement and praise rather than the insults or the verbal attempts to tear me down. Sometimes, the degrading talk can take me out of subspace. I don't mind demanding language, or even being told to do something considered degrading, but the whole "yeah bitch you're so pathetic you slut" just doesn't do it for me, and usually snaps me out of subspace. Just call me by my name and tell me to do the degrading act sweetly! ha

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I would be more curious to explore what it would be like to dominate a woman. Maybe after that, explore the submissive inclinations of a woman. I think gaining a greater insight into a woman's POV, on either side of the equation would be a highly enlightening experience. So many feminine mysteries to learn about.

Definitely my moniker Aromalover or Aroma. It was something simple I came up with when I was 15 to encompass my love for scent & my fart fetish. After I began sessioning it really became cemented in place for me and Ive found other dommes enjoyed the nickname as well. Ive also been called fart sniffer & fart freak as well lol.

What’s your favorite thing to be called and why? Bitch, slut, pathetic, etc.? Or is there a particular name you like?

I think I'm with you here. I don't see my inclinations going the other way. However, I would want to try dominating men and women separately and together, while I'm in male form.

In this scenario, are you a female dominant or woman? Is your submissive or dominant male or female?

Personally, when I see your face I want to do fun, cruel, things to you. I can't imagine any other woman not having that reaction. But I guess there's always someone out there...

Would you want to dominate a woman or a man or both? No interest in exploring submission from a woman's POV at all?

I think I’m so solid in my fundamental self that I don’t see myself flipping to preferring being dominant over submissive. I would most likely explore things I can’t do as a man, like seeing what a female orgasm feels like

I suspect they’d change. How much is difficult to gauge. The power exchange element would not be the same, so I believe would not be as appealing to me. I could certainly envision putting a partner in bondage and receiving as much oral pleasure as I could take. Beyond that, more thought is going to be required to provide a sufficient response to your question.

I don’t know. I wonder if I came across a picture of my male self if it would generate a strong desire to kick my ass.

Interesting question. Would definitely want to explore the other side. Interests and instincts would shift in more ways than one could anticipate. It would be fascinating to genuinely experience what the Dominatrix does, especially her thoughts and emotions.

During each session there is one thing I especially like to do! There is a mirror in every room, and I like for each sub to look at themselves as I have my way with them. The look on your face…gets me every time 😈 Of course you’ll see pleasure, but it’s the details; your face flushed, the look of bewilderedness and a little shame. Now that’s the best combo. The fact that you can’t believe that I am doing these things to you. Now tell me, what is your favorite thing about a session?

Imagine you woke up tomorrow in a woman’s body for just one day. No limits, no consequences, just 24 hours to experience life from that perspective. Would you continue to explore as a submissive or would you be curious to try things from the other side? Would your interests or instincts shift?

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I had underestimated how effective plastic wrap would be as a restraint until I tried it. After all, I can tear it in my hands with little effort, how hard could this be? However, after being encased in plastic wrap I found that it has absolutely no give. Unlike rope, where there must be a bit of slack to allow for circulation, and where you're only attached at a few points, the plastic wrap basically freezes you in place. I couldn't wiggle your arms, legs, hands at all, not even a fraction of an inch. As someone who likes restraint, this was a new level of intensity. If you like restraint, it's wonderful. One thing that I did not enjoy, however, was the sweat. Not so much that it made me sweaty, but that during the session as I was "rolled" into a new position, all the sweat flooded my head area, filling my eyes and ears. It was like someone dunked my head into salt water. The fact that it got into my ears also made it impossible to hear. For some, perhaps this is a plus, but for me, I was not a fan. Also, the mumification in plastic wrap allows for maximum access during impact play - nothing is in the Mistress way like a pole or a bench, and the wrap is too thin to dull any sort of hard strike from anything. Wonderful.

I agree with job1617 is important, but for different reasons. I usually have very physically and mentally demanding sessions and after having some bad subdrop experiences I've read up on how to lessen the effects. Not to get all science on everyone, but there's alot of biochemistry at play during and after a session. For instance, I know that my adrenaline is very high during prolonged impact play, and that if I don't take steps to manage the crash afterwards, it's pretty bad. Some of this is similar to what you might simply do after a tough gym workout - drink lots of water, replenish electrolytes and energy through eating the right foods (protein rich foods like yogurt, some sugary/carb foods like potato chips or a candy bar to combat fatigue). There's also very much an emotional aspect as well as a physical aspect, though this emotional aspect is triggered neurochemically since during a session, I'm playing with adrenaline, dopamine, and serotonin and post-session, all of these levels "normalize" quite abruptly which can trigger strange emotions. Knowing is half the battle - now that I know why I might feel certain emotions, I can better place them in context, but dedicated aftercare is best to help reduce the effects. Hugging and chatting for a bit help here since it helps with oxytocin and helps to "balance things out". That's been my experience, but I also acknowledge that everyone has different sessions involving different activities. If you're into impact, watch out for sub drop.