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Thanks for the responses. I have seen videos of both guys and girls being caned, and I think I like the "style" with which the girls are caned more. I find it easier to put myself in their shoes than the male subs, but I really don't think I'm into the sissy thing. I think the feeling of helplessness, and of vulnerability appeals to me more than the pain. But the pain is necessary for the tops to show me that they're in control. Does that make sense?

For as long as I can remember I would fantasize about these things, e.g. being interrogated by some ladies, or trained to perform some task, or used as a body for female tormentors to practice on. I'm it sure where it came from. I mentioned caning specifically because I think it looks elegant, and I like the look of the marks it leaves behind, from what I've seen in images/porn.

I haven't been caned before. I'm really quite new to this.

Hey there, I've been browsing the Fortress forums for a few months now - it's pretty cool how honest, open and accessible this place is. So thanks for that. I've been interested in BDSM for as long as I've known about sex but I've never actually done any BDSM. I'm pretty geeky/shy and on the skinny side, and I've not got a lot of experience with girls in general to be honest. I'm also only 26. Over the past year I've become aware that my fantasies are probably impractical to be pursued within a "normal" relationship, and I'd feel bad asking a girlfriend to do these things to me. I'm also pretty innocent in many ways so BDSM feels rather taboo. In any case I think the Fortress looks like a great place for me to start in kink. Is the Fortress tamer than private mistresses? I sort of get that impression from the forum/nature of the website. If I do book a session I want to be begging and whimpering for parts of it, while still knowing that no permanent harm would come to me. I'm still a little unclear as to the differences between types of mistress, i.e. domina, domme and mistress. I think what I'm looking for is something between a mistress and a disciplinarian, however I don't connect with made up punishment scenarios (unless the punishment is for mistakes make within the session). I'm more interested in the mistress torturing me because she enjoys it. A couple of questions is that's ok? If I'm mainly interested in foot fetishism, hard caning and sadistic treatment who would be the best at the Fortress? Thanks! N.