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Hi there, I'm in a loving, open and kinky relationship with a girl with whom I switch with (we don't really do D/s, it's more sadism/masochism). Since we started playing a few years ago I've always overused my safeword (when I'm bottoming), which both of us find really frustrating. I'm not sure why I can't "let go" - I used to be able to play quite hard (I was around 22 then, now I'm 34). Anyhow we were both wondering if seeing a professional might help, as my girlfriend said "like when you take your cat to the vet and it suddenly behaves itself". I read in another thread on here Mistress Katz (or Rey) saying how they sometimes implement "severe punishments" for overusing a safeword, and I'm wondering if that would work for my own problem?