Inexperienced, but want to try. Need advice.

[bane1234]

As the title says, I have never explored my BDSM fetishes and want to… I’m just nervous about getting over the hump of committing. 
 

It all started with the Bane transformation scene from the 1997 movie Batman and Robin. I’d like to be dragged, force shackled, forced to put on a gimp mask and choker, and transformed into an obedient slave for my domme. 
 

I don't know how to fill an hour or two of this fetish either. Anybody have suggestions or ideas? 
 

I would love to serve, as a comparison, as Poison Ivy’s Bane for example. I am into body worship, so maybe I can give my domme massages or rub her legs with oil or lotion? Any advice or help is appreciated. 

[Tyro Tim]

Relax, communicate, commit, enjoy.

[job1617]

I recommend booking an hour since this is your first time. The ideas you mentioned could absolutely be fulfilled in that time. I would communicate those ideas in an email or phone call. The Fortress is superb at pairing you with a Mistress if you don't have one already. My advice is to go slow and let is build organically. Your Domme will go at the pace you set. There are also words you can use to slow down or stop if things get intense. We have all had a first time. Good luck! Life is too short to not experience all it has to offer.

[theDumbMule]

I’d actually recommend 2 hours.  Shorter than that really flies by quickly.  Don’t worry about having ideas for filling the time, the mistresses have plenty of time.

More time allows the session to move through at whatever pace you can handle without rushing things.  The mistresses will go as slow or fast as you can take.

it’s ok to be nervous, that’s actually part of the session experience.  Just communicate what got you interested and the mistresses are great about tailoring a session around that and maybe able to introduce some things you may like that you haven’t thought of.

[Mistress Lovely]

On 6/26/2025 at 2:35 PM, bane1234 said:

As the title says, I have never explored my BDSM fetishes and want to… I’m just nervous about getting over the hump of committing. 
 

It all started with the Bane transformation scene from the 1997 movie Batman and Robin. I’d like to be dragged, force shackled, forced to put on a gimp mask and choker, and transformed into an obedient slave for my domme. 
 

I don't know how to fill an hour or two of this fetish either. Anybody have suggestions or ideas? 
 

I would love to serve, as a comparison, as Poison Ivy’s Bane for example. I am into body worship, so maybe I can give my domme massages or rub her legs with oil or lotion? Any advice or help is appreciated. 

Funny how often obedience starts with a fantasy like that. The good news is transformation can take many forms. Some slow, some sudden, some… supervised. 
 

You’ve already taken the first step. The next depends on who you offer the leash to. 

[bane1234]

1 hour ago, Mistress Lovely said:

Funny how often obedience starts with a fantasy like that. The good news is transformation can take many forms. Some slow, some sudden, some… supervised. 
 

You’ve already taken the first step. The next depends on who you offer the leash to. 

Wow, even reading you type that has me excited. 
 

Thank you, Mistress Lovely. You have calmed my nerves a bit. I hope to find a time in your busy schedule sooner than soon.