Secrets

[Mistress Kildare]

The games we play are risky, so trust is essential. But the stakes are high for a sub first meeting his Mistress... What goes through your mind during the first conversations? Do you bare your soul? Do you hold your darkest fantasies back? Do you wish she'd bring it up for you? Ha

[bklyny123]

I'm usually too shy, and hope she can bring it up or read my mind, which is admittedly a terrible stance/strategy, but hard to overcome in the moment.  

[Mistress Lovely]

4 hours ago, bklyny123 said:

I'm usually too shy, and hope she can bring it up or read my mind, which is admittedly a terrible stance/strategy, but hard to overcome in the moment.  

How does it feel when she successfully guesses?

[theDumbMule]

There’s no way my mind will function right at the beginning of a session to verbally say anything worthwhile.  A well composed email when booking is a better way for me to communicate my thoughts.

[bklyny123]

5 hours ago, Mistress Lovely said:

How does it feel when she successfully guesses?

Thrilling

[job1617]

I am shy but most Mistresses are intuitive. They can see right through me. They know my darkest fantasies and wield that knowledge.

[Ford Ranger]

For me it’s exactly as you describe, but almost subconscious. If I don’t really believe it; if I don’t really feel like she is present and in charge, I put up little walls. I don’t even realize what happened until later. Sometimes days later. 
 

But when I sense that I’m being totally dominated, I just lose my will completely before I realize it. 
 

I wish I could describe the difference. 

[Barb85]

Over the years I've gotten lot more open and confident in asking both in personal play and pro settings 

Missed out on to many opportunities in the past so very much of the feeling 'don't ask you don't get'

As an example, when younger and newer on the scene was at a play party in a dungeon. Myself and another male sub were ordered to masturbate in front of each other. My regret was not asking if we should do it to each other instead and where that might have led

[FB1010]

I’ve realized over time that I Iike foot fetish findom and blackmail, like having a goddess have the ability to expose me if I don’t be a good foot bitch, but not sure if I want to take that leap and actually give a goddess real leverage over me

[PainLover]

I am very shy and quiet so I prepare a detailed list of my interests and hand it over to the mistress before the session i find it working great since the mistress can always check the note during the session without having to ask me anything