Question for the Dommes

[Jinjadood]

Is there something on your bucket list of activities with a submissive that you haven’t yet had the pleasure of trying? 
im just curious what the range would be from everyone. Bonus points for the most imaginative idea. 😀

Perhaps someone else has already tried this activity and can offer tips they’ve learned. 

[Mistress Lovely]

Somnophilia roleplay! I think it would be fun to start a session with my sub ‘asleep’ and completely unaware of my nefarious plans for him… until he’s not, of course. 

[Jinjadood]

3 hours ago, Mistress Lovely said:

Somnophilia roleplay! I think it would be fun to start a session with my sub ‘asleep’ and completely unaware of my nefarious plans for him… until he’s not, of course. 

Wow that does sound fun. Definitely plays into my CNC kink. Thank you for teaching me something new as I’d never heard of this before.

[theDumbMule]

4 hours ago, Mistress Lovely said:

Somnophilia roleplay! I think it would be fun to start a session with my sub ‘asleep’ and completely unaware of my nefarious plans for him… until he’s not, of course. 

I have actually had that as an idea for a session.  I go into a room, then take a nap.  At some point the domme enters and has fun starting the session.  There is one problem that can’t be overcome, there is no way I can get myself to sleep at the Fortress.  I would be too excited to settle down.

[Mistress Matira]

5 hours ago, Mistress Lovely said:

Somnophilia roleplay! I think it would be fun to start a session with my sub ‘asleep’ and completely unaware of my nefarious plans for him… until he’s not, of course. 

Yesss I love this too

I also want to do a hypnosis session 😵‍💫 

[Jinjadood]

20 hours ago, Mistress Lovely said:

Somnophilia roleplay! I think it would be fun to start a session with my sub ‘asleep’ and completely unaware of my nefarious plans for him… until he’s not, of course. 

One time my partner come home from working the night shift, and while I was sound asleep, tied me spread eagle to the bed and teased me mercilessly keeping me on edge for an hour with a hitachi wand vibrator, while she was pleasuring herself to several orgasms. When she thought I’d suffered enough she used a bag of frozen food to shrink my erection and then locked me in chastity. She had planned this apparently as she left the key in her locker at work. I’d never known so much frustration and for the rest of the day I was following her round like a little puppy just trying to please her so she would unlock me.

[Jinjadood]

15 hours ago, Mistress Matira said:

Yesss I love this too

I also want to do a hypnosis session 😵‍💫 

Ooh hypnosis sounds so fun and devilish. What devious things would you have your hypnotized sub do for you?

[GentlemanRoleplayer]

On 2/9/2026 at 1:01 PM, Mistress Lovely said:

Somnophilia roleplay! I think it would be fun to start a session with my sub ‘asleep’ and completely unaware of my nefarious plans for him… until he’s not, of course. 

Very similar to 'Sleep Paralysis Roleplay'. They even have (tame versions) on Youtube... 

Flirty Sleep Paralysis Demon ASMR | You Can’t Move… You’re Mine (controlling personal attention) :

 

[franknot]

On 2/9/2026 at 1:01 PM, Mistress Lovely said:

Somnophilia roleplay! I think it would be fun to start a session with my sub ‘asleep’ and completely unaware of my nefarious plans for him… until he’s not, of course. 

   Mistress.. you had briefly hinted at being somewhat curious about my thoughts on IFS therapy and also if I agreed with some of Mistress Ito's views on pain. Both topics are relatable but seemed too complicated to discuss in a forum setting. 

   I wondered if you might consider a not quite role-play 'Therapy' session that could delve into both while helping me deal with a bit of real time uncertainty..  And while not exactly following your somnophilia theme perhaps something close? 

                  *  *  *
   You're dressed as an office professional. Your office is in the purple room.
We've never met but you have been able to review all the correspondence involving my previous visit to this institution with your colleague M. Ito.
  As part of this particular therapy I've been instructed to put on a blindfold and lie down on the therapist's couch. 
A chair is positioned at the head of the couch. 
   There is the sound of a door opening.. closing.. the rustling of clothing.. high heels slowly striking the floor.. and then the unmistakable whisper of stockings as you sit in your chair and cross your legs.. the sound of a pen scribbling note of some kind.

  The initial interview will be with this unknown woman's disembodied voice which will describe:
 * The goals of this new therapy (an aggressive hands-on version of MABT).
 * The details of what might be asked of me to help with achieving those goals, some of which may require being restrained.
  * Only after I agree to follow all of this stranger's instructions will the blindfold be removed.

[Mistress Lovely]

17 hours ago, GentlemanRoleplayer said:

Very similar to 'Sleep Paralysis Roleplay'. They even have (tame versions) on Youtube... 

Flirty Sleep Paralysis Demon ASMR | You Can’t Move… You’re Mine (controlling personal attention) :

 

This is a fantastic find! You understand the wavelength I’m talking about. 

[Mistress Lovely]

16 hours ago, franknot said:

   Mistress.. you had briefly hinted at being somewhat curious about my thoughts on IFS therapy and also if I agreed with some of Mistress Ito's views on pain. Both topics are relatable but seemed too complicated to discuss in a forum setting. 

   I wondered if you might consider a not quite role-play 'Therapy' session that could delve into both while helping me deal with a bit of real time uncertainty..  And while not exactly following your somnophilia theme perhaps something close? 

                  *  *  *
   You're dressed as an office professional. Your office is in the purple room.
We've never met but you have been able to review all the correspondence involving my previous visit to this institution with your colleague M. Ito.
  As part of this particular therapy I've been instructed to put on a blindfold and lie down on the therapist's couch. 
A chair is positioned at the head of the couch. 
   There is the sound of a door opening.. closing.. the rustling of clothing.. high heels slowly striking the floor.. and then the unmistakable whisper of stockings as you sit in your chair and cross your legs.. the sound of a pen scribbling note of some kind.

  The initial interview will be with this unknown woman's disembodied voice which will describe:
 * The goals of this new therapy (an aggressive hands-on version of MABT).
 * The details of what might be asked of me to help with achieving those goals, some of which may require being restrained.
  * Only after I agree to follow all of this stranger's instructions will the blindfold be removed.

That’s an interesting script, Frank! Why don’t you tell me some more about the nature of this patient/victim who this ‘Therapist’ would be presented with? 

She’s likely to have specific appetites. 

[GentlemanRoleplayer]

3 hours ago, Mistress Lovely said:

This is a fantastic find! You understand the wavelength I’m talking about. 

Glad you liked it! And happy to be on the same wavelength. There is something very hot about being 'helpless' with no physical restraints involved. Very psychological and erotic.

[Mistress Ito]

Wrapped up, gagged and locked in a closet, body attached with vibrators. Sub can't make any noise, will get beaten if so. 

[theDumbMule]

4 hours ago, Mistress Ito said:

Wrapped up, gagged and locked in a closet, body attached with vibrators. Sub can't make any noise, will get beaten if so. 

Are you threatening me with a good time?

[franknot]

On 2/11/2026 at 10:08 AM, Mistress Lovely said:

That’s an interesting script, Frank! Why don’t you tell me some more about the nature of this patient/victim who this ‘Therapist’ would be presented with? 

She’s likely to have specific appetites. 

   Mistress,

   I apologise in advance for the length but what you asked is hard to put in just a few words..  and 'the patient/victim would be more than happy to tell you more about his 'nature' face-to-face, or face-to-blindfold, .. as the case may be. 
  While there is a personal file in the 'Institution'  library for you to access, he could also email a more detailed psycological history during the booking process to better prepare the 'Therapist' for her pre-treatment interview, and he'd gladly fill in any blanks or answer further questions that the Therapist may have during that mandated incognito interview.
 If the Therapist feels that time might be a factor she has the discretion to add an additional billable hour to the therapy session.  

     I'll do my best while keeping it as brief and impersonal as possible. 

              *  *  *
    The Patient/Victim:
  I mentioned in passing that I have issues with doubt about my FemDom psyche and perhaps unconsciously my beginnings traumatized me to some extent. 
  That led me to wondering if some form of IFS therapy ..(which you seemed familiar with).. might help me understand what captured me in my early 30's and why it feels that *one wrong decision* resulted in the waste of the next 30 odd years of my life... I suspect that my submissive 'parts' while absolutely sincere may not have been able to exist in harmony with other aspects of my personality.

  I was introduced to BDSM and FemDom in my 30's long before the internet.  
So if you didn't know someone in the lifestyle it was only natural for you to believe that you weren't normal..  and either denied it or tried to live with it while keeping your kinky thoughts and behavior hidden and below the radar.  
  I had met someone who overwhelmed me with a sexual curiosity and appetite that I had never imagined existed. 
So yes, I was stuck below the radar and loved it there. To complicate things further we were both naturally submissive, and while topping wasn't comfortable experimenting with being dominated was always our priority. 
  It ended after 5 years ..(*that one wrong decision*).. never blossoming into its full potential but leaving a deeply permanent impression, and I was left wandering, wondering and searching for years... until finally visiting a ProDom roughly 12 years ago and then finally discovering the Fortress 8 years ago. 

              *  *  *
    Your question .. "Mistress Ito touches on a compelling link between the experience of pain and transformation. I’m curious how that sits with you"?...

  Perhaps her summary says it all...
  ... Pain.
  ... Simply pain. 

  There's no mystery,  it's just a tangible "Thing" that can inspire or destroy.. In the hands of a skilled Domme a tool that can be held or given to great effect.
 The pain of kink is more noble than vanilla pain.  There's a reason to endure it even when no reason has been given. 
For me, it's actually more pleasurable when randomly dispensed for no other reason than the whim of a smiling Dominant.
  I prefer random unexplained punishment/discipline without a reason.. just that my Domme enjoys inflicting it.. seeing 'joy' on her face in the mirror as the strokes land.
Especially when intermittent caress and vocal encouragement is offered to make it more meaningful .. and that's where I start wondering about the possibility of 'The Rapture' Mistress Ito mentioned.
 
  That pain can, and will, transform a person into a different state is reasonably obvious.. The question is can the pain be harnessed and guided  to some extent?
  If we can learn to let the pain sharpen our senses in the direction of pleasure then Mistress Ito's idea of 'Rapture' is a worthy goal, and the thought of rapture as opposed to 'ordinary' pleasure is reachable.
  Yes, I think there is a correlation between extreme pain and ecstasy..I  may have been close once or twice but never quite achieved 'The Rapture'..
  And I love that she describes it as rapture .. that lends it the aura of the spiritual significance that it deserves.
  And it is what motivates me.
    I have always used pain as a challenge of my will.. and my will has always been stronger than my physical strength.
But what if there's a more refined way?..
  The current MABT theory is that if pain can be held and examined long enough it can be shaped into something useful. .. So why not rapture?

    *  Dr. Google had this to say...
  "Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT) offers the BDSM community a structured approach to enhance interoceptive awareness, emotional regulation, and self-care by focusing on bodily sensations (touch, pain, and breath). 
Developed to help individuals reconnect with their bodies, MABT helps BDSM practitioners deepen their somatic experience, process intense sensations, and improve self-regulation, promoting healthier, more conscious, and safer play".

[Jinjadood]

11 hours ago, Mistress Ito said:

Wrapped up, gagged and locked in a closet, body attached with vibrators. Sub can't make any noise, will get beaten if so. 

Now that is something I can get on board with. Is there a long wait list? 😂

[Mistress Lovely]

5 hours ago, franknot said:

   Mistress,

   I apologise in advance for the length but what you asked is hard to put in just a few words..  and 'the patient/victim would be more than happy to tell you more about his 'nature' face-to-face, or face-to-blindfold, .. as the case may be. 
  While there is a personal file in the 'Institution'  library for you to access, he could also email a more detailed psycological history during the booking process to better prepare the 'Therapist' for her pre-treatment interview, and he'd gladly fill in any blanks or answer further questions that the Therapist may have during that mandated incognito interview.
 If the Therapist feels that time might be a factor she has the discretion to add an additional billable hour to the therapy session.  

     I'll do my best while keeping it as brief and impersonal as possible. 

              *  *  *
    The Patient/Victim:
  I mentioned in passing that I have issues with doubt about my FemDom psyche and perhaps unconsciously my beginnings traumatized me to some extent. 
  That led me to wondering if some form of IFS therapy ..(which you seemed familiar with).. might help me understand what captured me in my early 30's and why it feels that *one wrong decision* resulted in the waste of the next 30 odd years of my life... I suspect that my submissive 'parts' while absolutely sincere may not have been able to exist in harmony with other aspects of my personality.

  I was introduced to BDSM and FemDom in my 30's long before the internet.  
So if you didn't know someone in the lifestyle it was only natural for you to believe that you weren't normal..  and either denied it or tried to live with it while keeping your kinky thoughts and behavior hidden and below the radar.  
  I had met someone who overwhelmed me with a sexual curiosity and appetite that I had never imagined existed. 
So yes, I was stuck below the radar and loved it there. To complicate things further we were both naturally submissive, and while topping wasn't comfortable experimenting with being dominated was always our priority. 
  It ended after 5 years ..(*that one wrong decision*).. never blossoming into its full potential but leaving a deeply permanent impression, and I was left wandering, wondering and searching for years... until finally visiting a ProDom roughly 12 years ago and then finally discovering the Fortress 8 years ago. 

              *  *  *
    Your question .. "Mistress Ito touches on a compelling link between the experience of pain and transformation. I’m curious how that sits with you"?...

  Perhaps her summary says it all...
  ... Pain.
  ... Simply pain. 

  There's no mystery,  it's just a tangible "Thing" that can inspire or destroy.. In the hands of a skilled Domme a tool that can be held or given to great effect.
 The pain of kink is more noble than vanilla pain.  There's a reason to endure it even when no reason has been given. 
For me, it's actually more pleasurable when randomly dispensed for no other reason than the whim of a smiling Dominant.
  I prefer random unexplained punishment/discipline without a reason.. just that my Domme enjoys inflicting it.. seeing 'joy' on her face in the mirror as the strokes land.
Especially when intermittent caress and vocal encouragement is offered to make it more meaningful .. and that's where I start wondering about the possibility of 'The Rapture' Mistress Ito mentioned.
 
  That pain can, and will, transform a person into a different state is reasonably obvious.. The question is can the pain be harnessed and guided  to some extent?
  If we can learn to let the pain sharpen our senses in the direction of pleasure then Mistress Ito's idea of 'Rapture' is a worthy goal, and the thought of rapture as opposed to 'ordinary' pleasure is reachable.
  Yes, I think there is a correlation between extreme pain and ecstasy..I  may have been close once or twice but never quite achieved 'The Rapture'..
  And I love that she describes it as rapture .. that lends it the aura of the spiritual significance that it deserves.
  And it is what motivates me.
    I have always used pain as a challenge of my will.. and my will has always been stronger than my physical strength.
But what if there's a more refined way?..
  The current MABT theory is that if pain can be held and examined long enough it can be shaped into something useful. .. So why not rapture?

    *  Dr. Google had this to say...
  "Mindful Awareness in Body-Oriented Therapy (MABT) offers the BDSM community a structured approach to enhance interoceptive awareness, emotional regulation, and self-care by focusing on bodily sensations (touch, pain, and breath). 
Developed to help individuals reconnect with their bodies, MABT helps BDSM practitioners deepen their somatic experience, process intense sensations, and improve self-regulation, promoting healthier, more conscious, and safer play".

Interesting, interesting… I am but a simple woman.

I’ll need an accompanying soundtrack and finger-puppets to illustrate. Full voice acting, please. 

[GentlemanRoleplayer]

11 hours ago, Mistress Lovely said:

Interesting, interesting… I am but a simple woman.

I’ll need an accompanying soundtrack and finger-puppets to illustrate. Full voice acting, please. 

Playtime is not just for kids!

[Mistress Ito]

9 hours ago, Jinjadood said:

Now that is something I can get on board with. Is there a long wait list? 😂

My closest is currently rent free ☺️

[Mistress Ito]

17 hours ago, theDumbMule said:

Are you threatening me with a good time?

I can hear you scream through my screen 

[Jinjadood]

8 hours ago, Mistress Ito said:

My closest is currently rent free ☺️

I’m not a religious person but you’ve just showed me that heaven does exist 😀

[Mistress Matira]

Returning to this to say I also want to do sissy full body hair removal via waxing 😂 😈 & sissy girl’s day makeup tutorials where I teach you how to be perfect pretty & slutty enough for me 💄 

Also, in truth, food play doesn’t really call to me generally… but upon some reflection I realized I want to do a winemaking scene and crush grapes with my feet on a sub’s back 🦶🍇🦶 That and figging!! 

[Barb85]

On 2/9/2026 at 11:10 PM, Mistress Matira said:

Yesss I love this too

I also want to do a hypnosis session 😵‍💫 

Hypnosis is high on my to do list. If you need a practice subject Im more than willing

[Mistress Matira]

On 5/13/2026 at 9:00 AM, Barb85 said:

Hypnosis is high on my to do list. If you need a practice subject Im more than willing

I’m sensing you’d be a docile and easily moldable subject already

[nofoxx]

On 5/12/2026 at 2:03 PM, Mistress Matira said:

Returning to this to say I also want to do sissy full body hair removal via waxing 😂 😈 & sissy girl’s day makeup tutorials where I teach you how to be perfect pretty & slutty enough for me 💄 

Also, in truth, food play doesn’t really call to me generally… but upon some reflection I realized I want to do a winemaking scene and crush grapes with my feet on a sub’s back 🦶🍇🦶 That and figging!! 

Do you think hypnosis would work better before or after the wax 🫣