Mistress Faye Sunya Posted October 12, 2012 Report Share Posted October 12, 2012 I have always questioned myself, when do people come to realize their fetishes? Or their role (submissive/dominant, switch, etc.) ? Is it triggered by something that takes place during childhood, which we all know to be a very impressionable time in our lives.. I think I was born to be a dominant woman. Being in control is something that comes naturally to me. I was always very tall. I was always the tallest in all of my classes, towering over the boys, not just the girls.. Teachers always questioned me if I was left back a few grades but I never let that hurt my pride in myself. I remember when I was young and my mother took my shopping in Thailand.. I had the privilege of shopping with her in the Ladies shoe department. What was my size? Let's just say that when I was 7, I wore a US Women's Size 7...so on and so on. My friends were mostly boys who looked up to me, not just because of my physical height and presence, but because I was capable of many things. I was creative, athletic, intuitive. They admired me. I was accepted as a part of "The Boys Club" and I was pretty much the "boss" of them all So....when did YOU learn more about yourself? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris89 Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 I think for myself, it started in 3rd grade. I was trying to get closer to my very first crush. I soon found out she took karate classes at a nearby dojo. I convinced my parents to let me join and a week later i was on my way to maybe being able to finally talk to her. There was one crucial thing i didnt factor into this equation. She was already a green belt, number 5 out of 10 belts to move through. The owners of the place wouldnt let you spar or fight someone more then 2 belts higer then you and i was on number 1. So hense i watched from afar as she trained and fought with all the higher ranked kids on the other side of the building, dreaming of when i could go and have a chance to get my ass beat just to have a chance to get to know her. Nothing ever came of me and martial arts past novice level and soon i was moving on to baseball, but that stuck with me because years later in 6th grade, that ended up as my first sexual fantasy. Her in a towel kicking my ass and bam, instant turn on. The idea of getting hit in the balls left the biggest impact. I guess just with it being such a sexual area. I was amazed to find porn for such a thing around age 15 or 16 thinking i must have been the only one into it, but alas, how wrong i was. I didnt truly embrace my full inner BDSM self until i was 18 when i lost my virginity and started my first long term relationship. After about a year we both revealed our strangest inner fantasies and it turned out we were both into being submissive and took turns. I never really felt fulfilled though. Neither of us could truly pull off being dominant. The fortress helped fix that in a hurry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny000000 Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 I've been in love with Women's feet my whole life - I knew right away - I had no interest in men's feet, just adult Women's feet - sometimes, when I was a kid, if I saw a beautiful Woman on TV like CatWoman or Tanya Roberts, etc., or a magazine cover or a Women in public & They were barefoot or in sandals, It would make me stop whatever I was doing & sit for like an hour & wonder why I am so fascinated by this - I thought Women's feet were the most beautiful thing. I always wonder if I was born with it or if something triggered it. I have a friend who is gay & years ago, he once told me that they he always knew that that he was gay his whole life so I figured maybe, if it's true that people are born gay, maybe I was born with a foot fetish. When I became a teenager, I was able to conquer it & forget about it. When I hit my 20's I somehow fell off the wagon. And the one thing is that Women always seem to know no matter how hard I tried to make sure I wouldn't glance at Their feet, They somehow knew & immediately they would always tease me with Their feet - they would kick Their shoes off & put Their bare feet & stocking feet on my lap but I would freeze up - I didn't know how to react. This was the 80's & 90's & back then if you said you jad a foot fetish, people would be like, oh, what are you a sick bastard so I would never admit it in public. In my 20's I had one girlfriend that I decided to tell Her straight out that I had a foot fetish & luckily She was very kind about it. It was a short relationship but I was in foot heaven. I can't remember if I was open about it with other girlfriends, (the 80's & 90's are a bit of a blur) but I remember a few female friends that let me play with Their feet - one is a singer - a ton of foot action - another singer, some foot action, altgough I decided to stop that because I was afraid my personal business would spread throughout the club circuit among other musicians (musicians the worst gossippers, especially the men) others were just platonic friendships (I seem to dig that for foot action more). I also conquered my fetish in my 20's - completely forgot about feet - until I stopped in a go go bar for a drink before on my way to a gig & some beautiful asian go go dancer slipped Her shoe off and started rubbing my ear with her foot - that was it - that drove me absolutely crazy - my fetish multiplied 100 times & I never looked back - I think that may have started my interest in asian Women because She seemed to have me in a complete trance with Her foot - for those few seconds, I was completely helpless - Whoever She is, at that moment, She was the Boss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny000000 Posted October 13, 2012 Report Share Posted October 13, 2012 Mistress Sunya, speaking of fetishes, I just wanted to say that Your feet are so beautiful - You are such a Fortress Goddess. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny000000 Posted October 14, 2012 Report Share Posted October 14, 2012 Sorry about all of the typing errors & misspellings in my post - I was on my way out the door & I saw this thread & I wrote my post very quickly & rushed out the door so it's a little sloppy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Zhao Posted October 14, 2012 Report Share Posted October 14, 2012 I think I identify with you, Mistress Sunya. In my youth I've always been the bossypants when it comes to boys, and it was never really in my interest to dominate girls. But being a petite girl, I honed my skills to a finer, more subtle form of beguiling manipulation, where I didn't have to do much "bossing". Eventually, every boy that I liked, and even some that I didn't, had at some point worn mascara and lip gloss. As for fetishes go, I'm not really sure where the point of origin my hand fetish developed. Perhaps it was something that was always within me, but I had to grow into its recognition and acceptance. But it's a rather fussy fetish at times, and when guys offer to send me pics of their hands, I usually decline. Disembodied hands just don't do it for me, they have to belong to someone I find somewhat attractive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Faye Sunya Posted October 14, 2012 Author Report Share Posted October 14, 2012 Chris, I love your story about your crush at an early age! I never had the privilege of taking Karate classes, but I was so naturally strong and adept, I did not need any training I came to realize that I could lock a boy's head in a scissor lock between my legs with little or no effort..this is something I can still do to this day. Thanks for also sharing your story Johnny! I sometimes ask myself if someone is born the way they are or if they are influenced during an impressionable time in their life. Have you had any experiences with ladies feet at a young age? Thank you for your kind words. My feet are always welcome in your hands..or on your face.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TrackWarrior Posted October 15, 2012 Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 I have always questioned myself, when do people come to realize their fetishes? Or their role (submissive/dominant, switch, etc.) ? Is it triggered by something that takes place during childhood, which we all know to be a very impressionable time in our lives.. I think I was born to be a dominant woman. Being in control is something that comes naturally to me. I was always very tall. I was always the tallest in all of my classes, towering over the boys, not just the girls.. Teachers always questioned me if I was left back a few grades but I never let that hurt my pride in myself. I remember when I was young and my mother took my shopping in Thailand.. I had the privilege of shopping with her in the Ladies shoe department. What was my size? Let's just say that when I was 7, I wore a US Women's Size 7...so on and so on. My friends were mostly boys who looked up to me, not just because of my physical height and presence, but because I was capable of many things. I was creative, athletic, intuitive. They admired me. I was accepted as a part of "The Boys Club" and I was pretty much the "boss" of them all So....when did YOU learn more about yourself? i'm still trying to figure out what my fetishes are Mistress Sunya. i know i have a thing for leather and boots but every time another door opens, i seem to want to run through it. Had a list of things that i never thought i would do or want to do and now I have a fetish for all of it. Does that make me a slut?? Too funny! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny000000 Posted October 15, 2012 Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 Wow - the legscissors things sound so hot - I've been wanting to try that. I can't wait to book my 1st session at the Fortress - the only thing that's postponing is health issues - as soon as this friggin' nightmare is over, I want to explore my fetish with the Fortress Goddesses. I don't remember any live feet experiences before age 19 or 20. When I reached puberty, I became interested in Women from the ankles up. And then around age 20, the fetish came back. But I find it's so much hotter when I experience foot action from a female friend than from a girlfriend. Although with a girlfriend, you can really go further with foot action where it's mixed with sex which is great - but there's something so hot about having a Female friend that you're really close to, and then worshipping Their feet, especially, because I would never know what was gonna happen next. I had one friend who was living in NYC for about 2 years - I got some foot action from Her, not as much as I got from my roomate, but I loved hanging out with Her at Her apt. because out of nowhere, She would stop talking & start slowly taking off Her shoes. She would do it so slowly & I would sit there quietly, keeping my piehole shut so that I wouldn't ruin the moment, but my whole body would be tingling, waiting and wondering what was gonna happen next & then without saying a word, she would put her feet right on my face & all over me. So many diners & restaurants I walk passed from the East Village to midtown & I remember us eating at that place and within a few minutes while we were waiting for our food, I would feel a constant mild kicking on my leg & I would look up & She would be smiling at me or sometimes She would reach down & undo the strap on Her sandals & tease me with Her feet. At the time I knew Her I had never even heard of a dominatrix before but I think She was looking to make me a footslave bacause when I first met her, we were at a club watching a band and we went to leave & She was still sitting down & said I can't reach my shoe & saw that one of Her shoes were off so I went under the table & got Her shoe & put it on Her foot - wow just thinking about that has my body tingling - I loved Her feet. I can't believe How much I love Women's feet - it's so deep in me - and yet I don't fully understand it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny000000 Posted October 15, 2012 Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 Now I can't stop thinking about leg scissors (barefoot leg scissors), especially with Mistress Sunya's beautiful long legs & size 11's. I bet Mistress Zhao probably gives an amazing leg scissor. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Zhao Posted October 15, 2012 Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 Does that make me a slut?? Yup. I'd love to hold a contest for the biggest slut! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Tran Posted October 15, 2012 Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 Yes it does....you big SLUT! i'm still trying to figure out what my fetishes are Mistress Sunya. i know i have a thing for leather and boots but every time another door opens, i seem to want to run through it. Had a list of things that i never thought i would do or want to do and now I have a fetish for all of it. Does that make me a slut?? Too funny! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThankUMaam Posted October 15, 2012 Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 This topic is hard to resist. As a very young boy, I lived a few blocks where Baroness Monique VonCleef had her house. I can recall all the news reports at that time. Baroness VonCleef was a very imposing figure. It wasn't lost on me that Ms VonCleef was a nurse from Holland like my Grandmother. ( However there was no resemblance ) Over the years my interest in Female Domination has continued and evolved. I read many publications at the time, ( most phony extreme male fantasies) Roleplay with my ex, didn't work, primarily because she couldn't get into the role, and was always afraid of hurting me. Also our knowledge in those days were limited. As I said, my interest has evolved I realize that it's the attitude of the Woman which makes a Dominant Woman ,not the clothes or stilleto heels, unless that is what she wants. Most men are little boys, who do require discipline from a Female Authority figure. I also feel there is a spiritual aspect to it, by worshipping the Female as the embodiment of the Goddess, Mother Nature, or Mother Earth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jeriko13 Posted October 15, 2012 Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 I discovered my tendency towards kink at a very early age, stumbling upon my father's pornography. I do remember talking about about the images with another girl in my class, which must have been like 2nd or 3rd grade, since I distinctly remember it being in Catholic School and those were the only years I went. It didn't take. In truth, she was probably my first crush too. I don't remember anything about her other than those discussions and that she had red hair. Growing up, there was no shortage of porn to be found. He always rented videos or bought magazines, and did a terrible job hiding them. In any case, I was always drawn to the images, or the Penthouse letters, or the scenes, that had some relation to BDSM. The restraints, the scenes with spanking, etc. It didn't necessarily cultivate into a full-on realization that I was more into that than vanilla until college, when I could explore my fantasies a little more via the internet. Its not that I don't like a good deal of straight porn, just when its rough. I just like the stuff a little more on the fringes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
joey Posted October 15, 2012 Report Share Posted October 15, 2012 i had two teachers in school who were Asian and at a young age i became smitten with Asian females. i felt they were way more attractive then white females. over a period of years Asian ladies became my embodiement ofthe living Goddess. i soon developed the need to serve worship and pamper them. i'm 52 years old and i have never been with or served a lady of any other ethnicity. most people find this surprising. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny000000 Posted October 16, 2012 Report Share Posted October 16, 2012 Chris, I love your story about your crush at an early age! I never had the privilege of taking Karate classes, but I was so naturally strong and adept, I did not need any training I came to realize that I could lock a boy's head in a scissor lock between my legs with little or no effort..this is something I can still do to this day. Thanks for also sharing your story Johnny! I sometimes ask myself if someone is born the way they are or if they are influenced during an impressionable time in their life. Have you had any experiences with ladies feet at a young age? Thank you for your kind words. My feet are always welcome in your hands..or on your face.. I can't wait to start booking sessions - Your feet are so hot & I bet the soles of Your feet are breathtaking. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Faye Sunya Posted October 18, 2012 Author Report Share Posted October 18, 2012 Now I can't stop thinking about leg scissors (barefoot leg scissors), especially with Mistress Sunya's beautiful long legs & size 11's. I bet Mistress Zhao probably gives an amazing leg scissor. Heeheee..just imagine you ar on your back, my thighs cradling your neck so gently, and you're looking up at me. I am barely putting any effort into keeping a hold on you, but if you even wiggle the tiniest bit, I can promise you wont be able to get away. I mean...why would you even want to get away from me? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny000000 Posted October 19, 2012 Report Share Posted October 19, 2012 Heeheee..just imagine you ar on your back, my thighs cradling your neck so gently, and you're looking up at me. I am barely putting any effort into keeping a hold on you, but if you even wiggle the tiniest bit, I can promise you wont be able to get away. I mean...why would you even want to get away from me? Oh, You are so right, Beautiful Goddess Mistress Sunya, I couldn't imagine ever wanting to escape from those beautiful legs & feet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mistress Haru Posted October 19, 2012 Report Share Posted October 19, 2012 At the time I knew Her I had never even heard of a dominatrix before but I think She was looking to make me a footslave bacause when I first met her, we were at a club watching a band and we went to leave & She was still sitting down & said I can't reach my shoe & saw that one of Her shoes were off so I went under the table & got Her shoe & put it on Her foot - wow just thinking about that has my body tingling - I loved Her feet. I can't believe How much I love Women's feet - it's so deep in me - and yet I don't fully understand it. Feet are this beautiful secret body part. It's not something you see all the time. And women's feet are always so well-taken care of, as soft and blemish free as the rest of their bodies, that it's hard not to admire them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny000000 Posted October 19, 2012 Report Share Posted October 19, 2012 Feet are this beautiful secret body part. It's not something you see all the time. And women's feet are always so well-taken care of, as soft and blemish free as the rest of their bodies, that it's hard not to admire them. Beautiful Fortress Goddess Mistress Haru, You are so right. & I remember the first time I saw Your Pink Corset pictorial - WOW - Your toes are so beautiful - that is an amazing photoset. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
akiravn1 Posted October 19, 2012 Report Share Posted October 19, 2012 I have always questioned myself, when do people come to realize their fetishes? Or their role (submissive/dominant, switch, etc.) ? Is it triggered by something that takes place during childhood, which we all know to be a very impressionable time in our lives.. I think I was born to be a dominant woman. Being in control is something that comes naturally to me. I was always very tall. I was always the tallest in all of my classes, towering over the boys, not just the girls.. Teachers always questioned me if I was left back a few grades but I never let that hurt my pride in myself. I remember when I was young and my mother took my shopping in Thailand.. I had the privilege of shopping with her in the Ladies shoe department. What was my size? Let's just say that when I was 7, I wore a US Women's Size 7...so on and so on. My friends were mostly boys who looked up to me, not just because of my physical height and presence, but because I was capable of many things. I was creative, athletic, intuitive. They admired me. I was accepted as a part of "The Boys Club" and I was pretty much the "boss" of them all So....when did YOU learn more about yourself? Around the 7th grade I started feeling a strong need to associate myself with the more dominant girls who liked to be in control. That began to have a real attraction to me. I once had two of the girls hold me down while the other drew on me with lipstick. I really enjoyed that kind of submission. But it wasn't until I was just out of high school and working, when I met Asian women for the first time and from that moment on, I knew that I would be hooked for good, if I could ultimately submit to such exotic beauties. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Manpeach Posted October 26, 2012 Report Share Posted October 26, 2012 it wasn't until about a year ago that I realized I have been a submissive all my life. I have found myself very unfulfilled, depressed and lacking. I began soul searching and came to the realization that I don't like being in the number 1 control spot. I looked back and saw that as a child I was always looking to please my mother and father. I did everything they asked, always seeking approval. I'm not saying I didn't get approval, my parents were very supportive. It's just I enjoyed being good. My friends were always the ones who took control of the activities and I went along with whatever came on the table. This went on through HS and after that, I found that my friends had moved on to college or whatever. Oh yeah I forgot to mention in HS, I was molested by the minister of our church and my mother had an affair with my best friend's father and they were going to get married but he had second thoughts and went back to his wife. i've always thought that played a role in any disfunction I may have developed, but not as much as you might think. Anyway, after living on my own for a couple years I decided to go to college and, having a couple years maturity on the other students, I started taking on leadership roles. I had success with this and continued taking on more responsibility and leadership. I have a successful career, but directing and being responsible for so many has worn me out. I realized I would rather just be number two and have someone else take the lead. I've discovered that my cooperative nature was a way for me to give up some control. I would love to return to a secondary role, but, I am too far down the road to surrender and give up this vanilla life. In the meantime the Fortress has provided me with some relief. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny000000 Posted November 12, 2012 Report Share Posted November 12, 2012 it wasn't until about a year ago that I realized I have been a submissive all my life. I have found myself very unfulfilled, depressed and lacking. I began soul searching and came to the realization that I don't like being in the number 1 control spot. I looked back and saw that as a child I was always looking to please my mother and father. I did everything they asked, always seeking approval. I'm not saying I didn't get approval, my parents were very supportive. It's just I enjoyed being good. My friends were always the ones who took control of the activities and I went along with whatever came on the table. This went on through HS and after that, I found that my friends had moved on to college or whatever. Oh yeah I forgot to mention in HS, I was molested by the minister of our church and my mother had an affair with my best friend's father and they were going to get married but he had second thoughts and went back to his wife. i've always thought that played a role in any disfunction I may have developed, but not as much as you might think. Anyway, after living on my own for a couple years I decided to go to college and, having a couple years maturity on the other students, I started taking on leadership roles. I had success with this and continued taking on more responsibility and leadership. I have a successful career, but directing and being responsible for so many has worn me out. I realized I would rather just be number two and have someone else take the lead. I've discovered that my cooperative nature was a way for me to give up some control. I would love to return to a secondary role, but, I am too far down the road to surrender and give up this vanilla life. In the meantime the Fortress has provided me with some relief. Hey Bradley, How are you? Wow - once again I'm falling asleep at the computer so please excuse any typing errors but before I sign off, I just wanted to say that I was touched by your post & it left me at a loss for words. Whatever emotional trauma that you may have suffered from these incidents with your minister, I truly hope that you were able to conquer it & I hope you do find the relief you are looking for & a way to make your career & daily life & personall needs all work together for you in the best way possible. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Manpeach Posted November 13, 2012 Report Share Posted November 13, 2012 Hi Johnny Thanks for the kind thoughts. That post is the first time I've ever admitted that to anyone. the minister ended up at Marble Collegiate Church with Norman Vincent Peale. I never thought our relationship was solely sexual, he was a positive influence on me growing up. and it was a long time before he approached me in a sexual nature. He never required me to preform on him, I was seduced to allow him to perform oral on me. there was so much good at the time I hate to think it was all just to get into my pants. But when i see how jerry sandusky operated I'm forced to consider he was the same. There must be some subconscious effects, but I haven't felt the need to dwell on it. I just push it in the background. well I've said more than I ever intended too on this subject get some sleep Johnny Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny000000 Posted November 14, 2012 Report Share Posted November 14, 2012 Hi Johnny Thanks for the kind thoughts. That post is the first time I've ever admitted that to anyone. the minister ended up at Marble Collegiate Church with Norman Vincent Peale. I never thought our relationship was solely sexual, he was a positive influence on me growing up. and it was a long time before he approached me in a sexual nature. He never required me to preform on him, I was seduced to allow him to perform oral on me. there was so much good at the time I hate to think it was all just to get into my pants. But when i see how jerry sandusky operated I'm forced to consider he was the same. There must be some subconscious effects, but I haven't felt the need to dwell on it. I just push it in the background. well I've said more than I ever intended too on this subject get some sleep Johnny You too Bro, have a good night. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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