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That's actually a really interesting journey. It sounds like you spent a long time observing and learning before you ever decided to participate. I'm glad you found a place where you felt comfortable enough to explore your curiosity. Looking back now, was the reality of finally trying it pretty close to what you'd imagined all those years, or did anything surprise you?

Confidence really does change the whole look. 😈 I remember that scene too, it definitely left an impression. Do you think it's the leather itself that captivates you most, or the confidence and authority that someone wearing it tends to project?

I think pop culture probably did amplify things a little, but most of it was there. Man, I loved the movie "Bound." Seriously, it's a popular Hollywood movie that's fundamentally a lesbian bondage flick. I saw Gina Gershon in "Cabaret" on B'way after that, and while she is not a great singer, she was super hot. And while it leaves a lot unsaid, Cabaret is probably the kinkiest B'way hit ever. And after "Bound" not shockingly both Wachowskis turned out to be trans and at least one a serious sub. And then the internet, starting with Usenet, which is surely before your time. Before it got killed by spam, I remember looking at alt.sex.bondage on Usenet thinking, oh just gonna be a bunch of nerds, should be funny and boy was I wrong. I was always too shy to try to ask for the things I was curious about. My very first experience was at the Fortress. Well, I dropped by one of the fetish clubs once, when they still existed, but I went way too early in the night and it was, uggh. The Fortress seemed like a safe space to explore things I was curious about. And it has been

Any woman wearing leather in confidence will catch my full attention. There are lots of good movies but one most notable is Mr and Mrs Smith in the dominatrix scene.

Leather definitely has a way of making a statement. 😈 Do you think it's the look itself that draws you in, or is it more the confidence and presence of the person wearing it? Was there a particular movie, show, or moment that first made that connection for you?

Xena is such a classic answer. I can definitely see how the Amazons would leave an impression. The punishment wheel is an interesting detail too. Do you think it was the unpredictability that drew you in, or the idea of giving up control to chance? Has that stayed one of your favorite dynamics over the years?

Leia's outfit definitely seems to have left a lasting impression on a lot of people. 😄 It sounds like the fantasies were already there, though. Do you think pop culture influenced your interests, or did it just happen to reflect what you were already feeling? And what finally gave you the confidence to explore them years later?

Thank you, how astute of you to make that observation. I’m glad you were able to catch a glimpse of my deeper nature…

Appreciate you for digging this up! What a scene. I love her energy, definitely can relate 😏