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Absolutely true. I was also thinking in terms of empowering potential victims. It's a lot harder to victimize someone who knows they can speak out and be believed in the first place, and much easier to punish the predator. I think what's beginning to change is that as a broad society, we're starting to develop a genuine respect for women, both in the workplace and as human beings.

Philip Seymour Hoffman disliked giving interviews because he felt that getting to know him as a person changed how you saw the characters he was playing. It's certainly true. I can still enjoy many of Mel Gibson's performances, even knowing the things he's said and done: To me, there's little intersection between what he's done and who he's playing. OTOH, I couldn't watch a Cosby show rerun without wondering whether he slipped Lisa Bonet a rufie at some point. I don't think the revelation that Famous Person X grabbed somebody's ass 40 years ago should result in a banning of all their previous work. Going forward, however, a producer has to think not just in terms of box office power, but in terms of the safety of all the people on the set. For the most part these sexual predations are not about sex, they're about power. They're about saying "I'm Famous Person X, and you're a nobody. Nobody will believe you, so I can do what I want." BDSM, by it's nature involves exchanging that level of power, but voluntarily. Taking that power without consent is, to my mind, rape. One of the messages I'm hearing is: You're never powerful enough to get away with it.

For the most part, both. It's easy to lie because, while marks may accidentally show, the details are really nobody's business. They don't especially want to know the details of my sex life, so they take the explanation given and move on. If they thought about it, my lies would probably fall apart. The thing I find is that almost nobody really wants to think too hard about it. Do they really want to picture a 50 something average looking man naked and tied up? For the vast majority, no they don't. If they do, we should have dinner sometime. I'd guess your experience is different because anyone over age 12 with a pulse could spend many hours picturing YOUR sex life.

The stripes went clear across both buttcheeks. His expression WAS precious. I'd give a lot to know what the expression on MY face looked like. As far as public humiliation, it was all a mistress could ask

A lot of times I'm working at a public pool, and I share a locker room with my clients, so I have to be careful that any Fortress marks stay hidden from view even in there. It's a reminder of the session, and a little public humiliation play, even if I'm the only one that knows. One night (with Twizzler marks from Mistress Kang still raised enough to feel with my fingers) I was sure my clients had left, but one of my coworkers came through the locker room and asked what the fuck had happened to me. I told him a story about winching my brothers boat onto the trailer when the line snapped... To this day I have no idea at all what he thought. I seriously don't think he cared, he just wanted a story. One of the things I love about NYC is that whatever he thought, he'd seen nine weirder things in the pool that night.

THE absolute classic the "I'm mad as hell" speech from Network: but it's not my favorite. That honor goes to Bluto because "It's not over until WE say it's over" is the most accidentaly Fortressey lines of all time

I think the most memorable sessions have been when it seemed like I was playing with a fellow kinkster rather than a professional mistress. A LOT goes into that, though. A big part of it is trust. Since Mistress Kang gave you your wings, you have great expertise with all the tools of the trade, including how to make us scream in either pain or pleasure without accidentally harming us. You understand every part about a scene from negotiating to aftercare. This is also something you enjoy doing and want to do. These are NOT things you assume outside the Fortress. Another part is the dynamic between us. Some prefer a service top, but I find it limiting. If I'm genuine about things I enjoy, are you? Will you take what I'm talking about and tweak it into a scene you find exciting? Is there some new toy you just can't wait to try out? Don't be afraid to ask;you're the expert, and I might not have ever thought about THAT.

Assuming you're given the option. I had one session start with me being tied up and mistress asking "Did you wear a belt today? Is it leather" I'd answered both before realizing where this was going.

Cherish the feelings; they're rare enough in this world. And realize, too that there are some lines the Mistress just do not cross, and those lines make it forbidden, and even more tempting. "A Man's reach should exceed his grasp or what's a heaven for"

Yup, fully, totally agree. The mouth is waaay more of an erogenous zone than most appreciate. The tongue is, in some ways more sensitive than the penis Reminds me of a poem. "The French, they are a funny race. They fight with their feet and fuck with their face."

Gotta say fishnets are a huge turn off. Of course I realize that is just me.

I'd say noblesse oblige, but go too far and you're just beating up the homeless:) I know a few people in my life who could use some "bdsm therapy," but I'm going to go with Kari Byron of Mythbusters fame, and I think the gift would be what she gets out of it. She was the subject of the "Chinese water torture" segment, and didn't do too well. I think she deserves a shot at being tortured without trauma. And the visual of her tied to the rack...Gotta go!

It just occurred to me that changing with you, Mistress Kang, would be enough to make the average lady feel insecure. Of course, the ladies of the Fortress are by no means average. Besides, Mistress Rey has the perfect tits to go with the rest of that beautiful body.

I have played this way with Mistress Kang herself: She seems to really enjoy it. You should try it. All the Mistress seem very sensitive to what a slaves limits are and will respect them safe word or no: Some like to beat slaves til they just about to use a safeword, others like to hear the safeword screamed loud and often. In any case they know exactly where the line is. If you want them to go past what you think your limits are all the way to what they really are, you should mention that, too.

You're probably going to start with a large ball gag, then.

Janet, the one with the brain, Mary Anne, same reason Marcia was too innocent, but Laurie seemed ...vacant. It creeped me out a bit. Lilith seemed like a serious kinkster, where Dianne could talk you out of a hard on.

I get that, at most dungeons, not every mistress could treat you like you deserve. The Fortress is different, because ALL of the mistresses are For-real perverts first class, with the training and inclination to give you a world class dose of exactly what you deserve. Pick any two at random and you'll be thrilled. The difference between them is more personality and style. As for which mistresses fit you best, I recommend you start by trusting booking; I've taken a few leaps of faith and always been thrilled that I did. Others find a "Mystery Mistress" adds a thrill, and always works out better than you hoped. If that's a bit too much faith, I'd look at the Mistresses posts to get a feel for personalities, and pick that way. Whatever you decide, you're in for a treat!

There are 50 shades of platonic. A few I've experienced: -The forbidden ones you just never think of that way: relatives, for example. -The "it's just a bad idea" - like people you work with and you refuse to think of each other that way. More enforced platonic than anything but can lead to: -Friends after we worked together, never got curious or -Wondered what it would be like, tried a date, then realized we were completely incompatible that way - this is maybe the truest platonic, because any attraction was explored, but rejected and the friendship got stronger. One platonic relationship was with a drinking buddy because she had a boyfriend, then husband. When they divorced, she offered "friends with benefits," but I'm not that type.

Women have a better sense of smell than men, so that's probably one factor. You're also the sadist to my masochist so we might just fundamentally view the trade off between pleasure and functionality differently.

Mistress Rey, I find your choices fascinating since mine are the opposite. I couldn't get by without touch, but losing my olfactory senses would be fairly minor. Day to day, I probably use sight the most, but diving murky northeast wrecks has really improved my ability to perceive my environment solely through touch: Touch gets crazy amplified when all the others are cut off, and you can dive by braille.