I definitely agree that it is all about creating intimacy in a clear Mistress/slave relationship. But it is easier said than done!
Intimacy is about closeness, exchange, trust and more. Very hard to build in a one or two hour session, once every few weeks.
There might be ways to do so but lets be honest, it is very challenging.
I think submission is not a one hour a week or month attitude, but a permanent state of mind, a burning desire to please and serve your Mistress. Once you are there then fetishes definitely take a backseat and once in a while, you are rewarded by Your Mistress because She wants to do so and knows your fetishes.
And I do have a favorite color, nothing wrong with that! I love Red, because to me it is intense, passionate, burning, agrressive, highly symbolic and much more!
Again I love what You say Mistress Rey