WaywardPoet

Interesting question, I think we should all ask ourselves this from time to time. It can change for a person. So here are a few notes about me... My partner choice until now has been women, and by "women" I mean women... I do not go around chasing 19-year-olds just so I can say I did it. Maturity is sexy! I sometimes fantasize and promise myself to become more hetero-flexible, but I somehow always end up staying with just the hetero for a little while longer. As for the activities, I feel I am slowly (too slowly?) going toward the "pan-" approach. I try new things with new partners and almost always like it. Empathy toward your partner's fetishes is a powerful tool with which to build good sex and intimacy. These two things, partner choice and activities - sometimes they mix... An activity can challenge gender roles. Strapons are one obvious (and fun!) way of doing it but I think femdom in general is a defiance of the old gender stereotypes. Many other little things, clothes, jewelry, way of speaking can help mix up gender stereotypes. And maybe by doing this in the bedroom, we can start getting rid of these stereotypes from society. I like the idea of sapiosexuality... but in addition to being attracted to women's heads, I am also attracted to their hearts and it adds a lot to a woman if she also has a spine. All of this is me as I am now. I promise to change in the future.

@A Tourist, The tickling itself might not have been "pain" in the classic sense of the word, but other parts of the session were. To me, real pain usually has to be a part of the session. It is nice to vary and move from pain to tickling to let the body relax from one activity while doing the other. The pain really felt good and I think that a big part of the post-session high that @loveinthetimeofcollaring was talking about comes from the intense activities such as pain - in order to feel that high, you need something to shock you out of your daily life and out of your regular, everyday attitudes. That being said, I do think that the Mistress enjoyed the tickling more than the other parts of the session...

Hey! My thoughts precisely. I have also just visited Mistress Zhao recently and had a great time. Indeed the booking process was easy and accurate and I also have to say that the ritual of how you come in to the play room... alone in the dark following voice commands of a Mistress you never seen before... totally exciting! I have some experience with BDSM and let me tell you, Mistress Zhao impresses you not just when you are a newbie, my friend. Such sensitivity and empathy is not common. I felt an immediate rapport with her. She is a deadly weapon when she uses her paddle and even worse when she tickles ;-) I too recommend The Fetish Fortress and professional, clean, trustworthy and operating on a high level of personal ability.