philosophicalsub

Brilliant! Although it’s kind of a no-win situation for the top. Either your sub is doing a bad job or you’re losing the game. As a top, I’ve distracted a sub in a similar way while she was playing a survival game. Spoiler alert: she didn’t.

Good communication makes for good scenes. We subs have such a wide range of desires that a Mistress is not going to be able to figure out what you want from a scene without you telling her. Being open about what you’re looking for from a scene and what you think went wrong with your scenes in the past is probably your best bet. But sometimes when you’re timid, just being open can be hard. Something that helps me is asking permission before speaking (e.g. “would it be all right if I say what I think went wrong in the past…”). Helps me feel less like I’m being pushy and more like I’m being a good sub. Also, try and keep in mind that your Mistress, in addition to being sexy and skilled, is also just a person. Listening to what they have to say, asking them how they’re doing, what sort of stuff they like, etc, will help to relax you and also help to get that communication going. Treating her desires as at least as important as yours will help her to have a good time, which in turn will help you to have a better, more relaxed time. My favorite scenes are the ones that felt like collaborations, where we took the time before the scene to figure out stuff we were both excited about. Hope that helps. Best of luck!

Thank you for continuing to share your art with us! I just love it.

This is such a good and thought provoking question! I’m so sad I don’t really have much of a better answer than “when we both feel comfortable.” I think that feeling of comfort comes from the accumulation of so many small and ineffable things. I wish I had better insight into them all.

I definitely agree that one of the cooler parts of art is that it affects everybody differently. Still, even though I know that, part of me is afraid of getting it “wrong“ somehow. Right or wrong, after some reflex, here’s how my brain makes sense of the picture: Because the female character is put in the foreground and the face of the background male is so still, it definitely feels like she is the more powerful of the two. But both of the characters feel a little restrained to me. They are literally entwined in each other, and even if she has more power, she isn’t completely free to do as she wants. Which seems like an apt metaphor for d/s dynamics to me. The dominant does have all this apparent power, but they are restrained by their partner’s limits, their desire not to cause real harm, etc. I don’t think I would have put it this way before thinking about the painting, but I find it very rewarding when I am able to loosen my dominant’s restraints a little. That is, allow them to feel comfortable indulging some desire they normally feel they have to hold back on for the sub’s sake.

Congrats on taking the plunge! If you’re looking for more community, I’d strongly recommend attending a few munches (non sexual gatherings of kinky folks to meet and say hi; they tend to be very welcoming). Fetlife is a great way to find them.

It’s really cool to see the painting evolving. I love that you take your experiences with us and use it to create more art. Because I know it was inspired by our submission, I’m worried I’m seeing things that aren’t there. E.g. In the first version, I kept wanting to interpret her hand as mimicking a praying mantis claw, but after seeing the second version now I suspect that was just me projecting. I’d love to hear what specifically inspired you. Tho I’d totally understand if as an artist (or a mistress) you’d rather just let the painting speak for itself.

Congrats @Mistress Juno Sato on becoming a full player! It was a privilege (and just so much) fun participating in your training. If you haven’t had a chance to play with her yet, Mistress Sato is fantastic. She delights in (and is quite good at) intimidating and menacing you so that you feel like her helpless victim in the best way. But behind that exterior, she is also super happy joking around and is clearly concerned with your safety and well-being. It ends up feeling almost sweet when she gets these looks of joy and delight on her face in the midst of something particularly sadistic.

That’s exciting. I got to play with these two at the beginning of their training, with Mistress Kang directing the proceedings. I recently played solo with Mistress Sato, and it was so cool to see her fully in control of her own scene, making her own intimidating decisions about what direction my torment would take. The photo shoot feels like making it official, that Mistresses Gong and Sato have arrived. That, and I have this sneaking suspicion that the pictures will be super hot.

16-26 was pretty amazing. Discovering I wasn’t the only one, and that these sweet and kind people I had been crushing on could also be genuinely sadistic was such a pleasant, giddy surprise. Plus, you know, youth. The last couple of years have been filled with such exploration and an expansion of limits tho. It’s looking like the decade I’m in might surpass those early years. Here’s hoping, anyway.

So glad to hear I was a good test subject ??. Still have some of the marks you left, and think fondly of the session when I’m reminded they’re there. Normally I’m the one getting pushed, but it was really cool to see you pushing yourself at the end of the session. I do hope that part was a positive experience for you. It felt really special to me.

Your words of praise mean so much. Thank you! I have just the stupidest grin on my face as I type this. And OMG, I love your picture. I'm so glad you felt that moment was worth capturing. It might be a while before I am able to do so, but I would love to do science with you again.