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Thank You Mistress Kang.

Wow, Mistress is simply beautiful....is she still engaging at FF?

Beautiful and thought provoking. So I have always felt that we are hardwired from birth with our desires. Its a matter of how we process them. Someone one time asked me how long I have been into kink. My reply was kink has always been in me. Now saying that one is into kink is akin to someone saying they are into food. It helps to narrow things down. So for those who are lifetime kinksters, it was never a matter of if, but how. And to that extent, its important to be precise. If one starts a journey not knowing where they are going, they will end up somewhere, but probably not where they want to go. For many porn is the first exposure to a particular kink. But a magazine is static, and does not change. A famous female porn photographer once said that most will procure a magazine or video out of specific interest, but in time, since content does not change, but we as people do, so there is always a market for new porn. So initially enticements are always in our mind. There is some expansion because of content, but in the end, that content becomes part our internal fetish cinema. So there is the process of reaching out, and for fetish lovers, and speaking as a male, it is much easier to find submissive females than it is to find non professional dominant females. I mean, when was the last time one saw a dungeon comprised of only submissive females. Then it becomes interesting. People love high end restaurants because of the skill of the chef. I would think, one does not get to be a good chef unless they like cooking. Now of course, elevated skills have elavated value, but I doubt if there are many top end chefs who the day they began learning felt that they hated cooking. The same for musicians, or actors, or artists, or any skill. There are many Dominant artists who you get the sense that they are just punching the clock, that its just a job, and with any job. And that is perfectly fine, we do what we have to do to survive. So while some may think that its about getting all the eggs they can from the golden goose, the special ones learn that its about giving the goose a reason to go out and get more and more eggs and joyfully offer. A real Dom or Domme knows that the best control is to control other's pleasure. And subs have to learn that pleasure for a Domme means something else. That said, I try to avoid chefs who don't like to cook, mechanics who don't like to work on cars, or actors who dont enjoy acting. An actor is playing a role. Its pretend, its make believe. Yet, the great actors can make the audience laugh, cry, move to joy or anger, and think. In that sense, it is nonsensical to think that a Pro Domme is just there for the joy of it all. They too have their pleasure and it comes in very tangible forms. So I don't mind that a Domme desires value. What I do mind are those who not very good at their craft, or do not understand that their form of pleasure requires customer satisfaction. A business, any business, will not stay in business very long if they provide excellent customer service. Its not just the product being offered, its the experience. Which leads to another point. Most people with kinks have their own mental studio in which everything is perfectly tailored to their desires, but mental facilitation does not utilize all of the senses, and much like fetish media content, can become stale, which is why they seek specialized services. So when they have initial discussions, it is problematic to condense a lifetime of thoughts and desires into a few sentences. That makes it harder for the provider of the service to know what the customer is looking for. As a result the experience can be less than desirable. So return to an earlier metaphor, saying that you want to be dominated is like saying you want to be served food. It helps to be specific, and it really helps to understand that the dynamic between two people requires understanding and honesty, but also the expectation that a Domme will process and internalize from their experiences which for me is the goal. I don't want a copy of a fetish video I saw, I want someone to engage from their perspective, which is why one has to put effort into seeing which providers are closest to their desires. A spanko is not looking for intense rope bondage, and someone into rope bondage is not look primarily for foot worship in the same sense that one who likes Italian food will probably not enjoy going to a French restaurant. And to be sure, a fetish engagement is not a destination, its a journey, which is why the experience is better over time as both parties understand better the touchpoints. I said all of that to say, the question of what we like would be important if we choose to engage on a solo basis. What we like, and why one goes to a Professional Dungeon is not just a matter of what one likes, but how much time and effort is put into understand how to get the best experience. One of my first Dommes when I began to explore my sub switch persona said that a really good Domme , like any artist, expected to be offer much appreciation for their services, while at the same time, making the experience at any amount, seem like a bargain. To me, a really good Domme, even when they are strict as hell, are really people who care about others, and understand that its a good business practice to make a submissive stronger and more confident in their desires. A really good sub should understand that being a Domme is what someone does, not who they are, and that one always should carry respect and decency with them. In a perfect engage, one party gives to the extent that the other person is motivated to give effort into making sure the other party is motivated to keep giving, and in a really perfect situation, the more one gives the more one gets and it because a perfect win win cycle, where everyone is happy. Happy in the end, is the truest fetish of all.

Not at all Mistress Dailsay. Most people, especially Dominant Females are caricatures. Its rare and refreshing to see those who understand who they are and embrace that fact. Please consider it a compliment of the highest order.

The combination of Your face, Your body, and Your poetic mind.....well You definitely remind me of Yourself Mistress Dalisay

I can only imagine the myriad of ways both of You would play.

Wow, Mistress Tang is Fierce personified

Thank You for having a deeper nature.... among other things lol

A Porcelain Succubus whose Yin is Her Yang.

Mistress Lovely is indeed Lovely....

Mistress Shang is not only a vision of Loveliness, but Her eyes are a window into a true Domme persona.

Thank You for reply. i asked because Your pleasure would be the starting point for all else.

Part Humiliation fetish, and part of another fetish that has to do with FFT. That said, if someone is asked what flavor of ice cream they like, they can offer a detailed reply, but in the end, it comes down to We like what we like. Having a preference for Chocolate ice cream does not mean one hates strawberry, its liking what one likes. And in the end, a subbys pleasure depends on if the Domme finds pleasure. Otherwise it becomes "You do this, i do that" engagement. So I am curious, outside of the obvious, does facesitting a sub bring You pleasure?

Well that image got my attention for a few reasons

And i wonder what experiences you would have in mind Mistress

Its a component of humiliation fetish i would say. Being made to strip them paraded in front of other Dommes, before being taken back for open door discipline and further degradation. Of course this depends on the enticement being share by the Domme, as all are different and one should not assume otherwise.

So just thinking out loud.. Constance Wu and Michelle Yeoh

@Mistress Dalisay one cannot be weak to be submissive, and I think you love someone who submits fully without hesitation....And i have learned that a true Domme does not make, She allows, and thus gains greater control over desire, than over desperation. There are some who think the goal is to take all the eggs from the Golden Goose. There are others who understand that its better to give the Goose a reason to be on a mission to get more and more eggs and beg to offer. The former will end up with less than the latter, because the latter creates Her value, the other limits.

In the end, the only answer would be which one You would enjoy most. Regardless of how a supplicant decided, unless Your enjoyment was present, neither decision would matter. Not being obtuse, but just understand the nature of nature.

Wow, she is a vision of Loveliness...from any direction

And of course YOUR preferences would be what mattered.

And said sub would be naked i would assume Mistress Dalisay.

Well let me suggest something.... Perhaps an Orca? Why? These marine mammals are highly intelligent and the best at adapting their tactics. They have been observed coordinating complex maneuvers to hunt seals on ice floes by creating waves to wash them off, or even intentionally beaching themselves to capture prey

Another in the long line of Gorgeous Goddesses of the FF.

Confession is a necessary ritual to learn how to be honest and accept one's true self. Ironically, I am amused that most Mistresses dont realize this. And of course You are inside, because of what is inside Your head.