Marc Paris

Ouch, not cool ! Japanese laws seem to be as bizarre and hypocritical as french ones, perhaps even more so. I must say that my session in Tokyo was very unusual in many respects, especially as they hadn't really explained the procedure to me before the actual meeting took place. I was supposed to meet Mistress Nana in the street, which I found a bit surprising, but I assumed that it was for security reasons. So after we had met I followed her, believing that she was taking me to the dungeon, only to discover that she was directing me to a love hotel nearby. Thankfully, the price for the hotel was included in the session fee. When we were in the room, she had me fill a questionnaire in englsh about what I liked and didn't like to do, and then she based the session on my answers. It was all very surprising, but after all I had come to Japan to see unusual things. So I was like "When in Tokyo, do as the Tokioites do !" ?

Not to mention the fact that BDSM actually helps you improve your vocabulary ! When you asked me to "dry-hump" the couch I had to pause for a second to figure out what this meant in english. ? The english language has the distinct advantage of being very synthetic and practical : I don't even know if there is a precise equivalent in french for the action I just mentioned.

Like you don't have that in New York, too ? ? But, hey, I totally understand why you'd want to keep her in NY, so that's fair game. ?

It's the first time ever that I have a BDSM session which evolves into a discussion about linguistics ! ? I really hope that you'll decide to spend some time in Paris : I believe you'd be a huge success !

There's another major difference which I forgot to mention, and which depends on the various national laws. In France, dungeons can only be operated by one person : since BDSM is classified as sex work, a dungeon with several mistresses would be considered a brothel which - unlike sex work itself - is stricly forbidden in France (French law is very weird as it does not give clear definitions for "sex work", nor for "prostitution" so this creates some sort of "gray zone" which impairs how dungeons can function). I've been told a horrible story about a French dominatrix's boyfriend who was sentenced for "pimping" just because he was doing the computer work for his gilfriend's dungeon. On the contrary, some European countries allow dungeons to employ several dominatrixes : that's the case in Germany or in Austria. Likewise, the dungeon I visited in Estonia was being used by two dominatrixes. From my experience, I'd say that being given more freedom by their national laws allows dungeons in the US, Germany, etc, to be much more "professional" in their proceedings. This is also why actual professional dungeons are fairly rare in countries like France, and limited to well-known mistresses who make loads of money and can therefore afford to rent and furbish a large space (which is VERY expensive in Paris). In the same token, American and German dominatrixes can specify their session rates on their websites, while French dominatrixes (it's probably the same thing in other countries) are not allowed to (so their websites have to look like they're advertising free services) and must give them to their clients on the phone or by email.

Now that I have visited the Fortress, I can make actual comparison with the dungeons that I have visited in Europe. I'd say that the main difference is, by far, the security measures. Apart from the fact that I was always told the exact address by phone at the last minute, all the professional dungeons I have visited - even the larger ones - had very minimal security, with just a basic doorhole at the entrance. I was generally greeted at the door by the mistress herself. In that respect, my arrival at the Fortress was quite surprising, even though it added to the "mystery" of the experience. Quite interesting, though (apart from the great quality of the session itself ?).

Last week, during my stay in New York, I could at last have my session with mistresses Jin and Rey. It was a wonderful experience. At the beginning, I must say that I was quite nervous, being in a foreign country and an unfamiliar place with dominatrixes I had never met, but they could quickly put me at ease. They are both extremely sexy with gorgeous bodies and very different of beauties, and they are really good at dishing out pain and humiliation with smiles on their faces. I'm not much of a fan of dominatrixes who play the part of an unsmiling "ice queen"" so I loved the fact that the session had a relaxed, "friendly" atmosphere. One funny thing is that, even though I'm French, I don't have the typical "Inspector Clouseau" accent so they kept guessing where my accent came from and joking about how I sounded : first time anyone tells me that I sound like a New Zealander ! It was unexpected to have this conversation during a BDSM session but it added something quirky and original to the experience. I felt good vibes with them during the whole experience and it quickly made me forget that I was far from home with people I had just met. I hope I'll be going back to New York in the not-too-distant future and will have the opportunity to come to the dungeon again. Oh, and as I told Mistress Jin : since we don't have many Asian dominatrixes in France, should she ever decide to learn the language and to spend some time in Paris doing sessions, I think that she would be a huge success ! An Asian dominatrix with a "New York" vibe and an American accent would be a very welcome novelty in France ! ?

I had my session with Mistresses Rey and Jin and, even though Mistress Rey didn't speak French much - she preferred to "remain a mystery" - I could hear enough to determine that she does have that delightful singsong accent that French people often get after staying for a very long time in the USA. It's very nice on the ear. Oh, and in case anyone should doubt that, she IS authentically French : when she was tying me up, I think she tripped on something because I heard her mutter spontaneously "Merde !" as only a native French-speaker would ! That added a wonderful and unexpected "exotic" touch to the session. ?

In France, I visited (looooong ago) the dungeons of Lady Amanda and Maîtresse Cathy in Paris (they're now both retired). Cathy's place was the most impressive BDSM place I ever saw. Much more recently (two months ago, really), I sessioned with Lady Alizée who works in a suburb of Paris. In Germany, six years ago, I sessioned in a fantastic place called "L'Atelier des rêves" (they were very much German but their name, in French, meant "Workshop of dreams") which, unfortunately, has since closed. In Estonia, I visited two years ago the dungeon of "Printsess Lilian". A fantastic experience, I must say (not to mention the fact that Estonians - including Estonian women are very tall : she's probably the most robust woman I ever sessioned with). As for my session with Mistress Nana from La Siora, I did not notice anything BDSM-themed in the love hotel we used.

Oh, I have no doubts about that.

I also sessioned in Italy, but that was in a private apartment. My most surprising experience was in Tokyo : I booked with a BDMS agency called "La Siora" but apparently Japanese dominatrixes can't have dungeons per Japanese law, so the session took place in a love hotel ! That was very unusual and unexpected.

I haven't visited US dungeons yet (the Fortress will probably be my first ;) ) but I've visited dungeons in Europe, namely in France, Germany and Estonia. Is this interesting to you, even though I can't make a comparison ? If so, what would you like to know (architecture, facilities, procedures, others) ?

All good things seem too short.

Asian and black... Very interesting combination if I may say so. :)

No problem, of course, I guess this can only be perceived by native speakers ! :D The accents that French speakers may or may not acquire when they live or grow up abroad vary a lot depending on the people, and how old they are when they change countries. Jean-Claude Van Damme, for example, now sounds very funny when he speaks French, even though he was already past 20 when he came to the States ! (Ok, he's Belgian and he may not be the best example, but still...) Likewise I am told that after 50 years in the US, Schwarzenegger sounds a bit funny to German ears, with a mix of his native Austrian and American accents. :)