Mistress Lovely

You look back on shows and movies you watched as a kid, and suddenly catch all the subtext that went completely over your head? I’ve seen this talked about a lot with politics and sex, but lately I’ve been pondering something else: how much hidden BDSM was baked into the things we were drawn to early on. Old marvel comics, spy dramas and vampire stories keep taking on new meaning as I learn and explore. Looking back, it was never subtle 🤭 What was yours?

I’m more intrigued by the dopamine spikes that these labels tend to prompt.

It’s fascinating to ponder what these types of online quizzes actually reveal about someone’s self image.

If someone changed the wording of these ‘archetype’ descriptions, do you think people would identify with a completely different label just as easily?

Labels are training wheels. Useful early on, limiting when you can ride.

Practitioner communities and kink activists. Porn is fun, but teaches tropes, not craft.

I read quite a bit. A lot of my foundation comes through community lineage- though I didn’t realize it at first. I’ve learned the most from real people.

It’s kind of funny. I haven’t seen a single one of these.

Still exploring food play on the whole- stepping in cake, though. Transcendent. More pleasurable than eating it, for me. Perhaps an extension of my broader proclivity for crushing soft things.

Yes! Obedience borne of intention rather than avoidance is the axis of these dynamics. I want you to think about why a mistress might make use of rules. Given, of course, that she needs no justification to exercise her power- what purpose do failure conditions serve in a scene?

Life resists decay by intention. Discipline is intention made manifest. There is nothing ‘mere’ about it.

I have a strong streak of moral sadism. There is more heat in a man choosing to fracture his self-imposed discipline in service of my will than in one who simply receives punishment. Rules are a medium, not a refuge.

A blueprint defines intention; a tool executes force. They are not interchangeable. Punishment impacts material. Discipline determines what that material becomes. On what basis do you assume that beauty is the objective?