Pre-session jitters

[ropeandspank]

How do you get a handle on pre-session jitters? I’m coming in to see Mistress Varela for the second time this weekend and I am already nervous about it. The nerves are a part of the fun, but they usually don’t typically hit this early. Maybe it’s because I’m coming in sooner than I expected to be? Idk, but I am very excited regardless. 

[Mistress Ito]

You act like a little kid who is going to school trip hahaha! Enjoy the excitement

[ropeandspank]

3 hours ago, Mistress Ito said:

You act like a little kid who is going to school trip hahaha! Enjoy the excitement

I feel like that every time too Mistress lol. I think it just goes to show how amazing the players at the Fortress are that I’m excited so early! 

[Mistress Kang]

3 hours ago, Mistress Ito said:

You act like a little kid who is going to school trip hahaha! Enjoy the excitement

This is a perfect analogy lol

[Barb85]

I don't tend to get them until the last few minutes of my journey. Lot of nervous excitement on the way but the actual nerves/fear only last 2min or so. From rhe turning the corner and seeing the front entrance. But once I'm in, the nerves instantly change to excitement 

[ropeandspank]

1 hour ago, Barb85 said:

I don't tend to get them until the last few minutes of my journey. Lot of nervous excitement on the way but the actual nerves/fear only last 2min or so. From rhe turning the corner and seeing the front entrance. But once I'm in, the nerves instantly change to excitement 

I tend to be that way normally too, but Mistress Varela truly is something else. Only one other person I've ever seen gets me feeling the same way 

[Mistress Varela]

I’m so glad I get to torture you again. Seeing you means instant domme space xoxo

[ropeandspank]

11 minutes ago, Mistress Varela said:

I’m so glad I get to torture you again. Seeing you means instant domme space xoxo

Oh Mistress, you are much too kind and now all of those fun jitters just came rushing back lol

[Ford Ranger]

I used to get them, but now my pre-session feels more like preparing an offering for a temple. 
 

Ritual cleaning, quiet travel, arriving on time, deep breaths, carefully removing clothes, kneeling and entering a sub space. 
 

More meditative than anxiety now. I sort of miss the giddy anticipation, but overall I think I appreciate this stage even more. 

[Tyro Tim]

Anticipation is part of the experience. 
Sorta like the period running up to vacation.

(using “vacation” in a really stretched way in this metaphor)

[SoIntoYou]

22 hours ago, ropeandspank said:

How do you get a handle on pre-session jitters? I’m coming in to see Mistress Varela for the second time this weekend and I am already nervous about it. The nerves are a part of the fun, but they usually don’t typically hit this early. Maybe it’s because I’m coming in sooner than I expected to be? Idk, but I am very excited regardless. 

I feel your pain/excitement as I often get the jitters right after I book a session. It like “welp…there’s no backing out now”. 
Then I focus on the preparation in the days ahead. Stay limber, keep hydrated, eat healthy, always moisturize, etc. 

[ropeandspank]

1 hour ago, Tyro Tim said:

Anticipation is part of the experience. 
Sorta like the period running up to vacation.

(using “vacation” in a really stretched way in this metaphor)

Subspace is kind of like a vacation in a way lol 

[ropeandspank]

34 minutes ago, SoIntoYou said:

I feel your pain/excitement as I often get the jitters right after I book a session. It like “welp…there’s no backing out now”. 
Then I focus on the preparation in the days ahead. Stay limber, keep hydrated, eat healthy, always moisturize, etc. 

Yeah, went for a run today on my lunch break so stretching tonight and tomorrow morning is gonna be key 

[ropeandspank]

The session today was amazing and while I feel like I didn’t handle as much as last time, I feel accomplished. I'm gonna have a few sore spots for while lmao

[Mistress Varela]

2 hours ago, ropeandspank said:

The session today was amazing and while I feel like I didn’t handle as much as last time, I feel accomplished. I'm gonna have a few sore spots for while lmao

I sure hope you do ;)) 

[Mistress Ito]

On 5/30/2025 at 12:38 PM, Ford Ranger said:

I used to get them, but now my pre-session feels more like preparing an offering for a temple. 
 

Ritual cleaning, quiet travel, arriving on time, deep breaths, carefully removing clothes, kneeling and entering a sub space. 
 

More meditative than anxiety now. I sort of miss the giddy anticipation, but overall I think I appreciate this stage even more. 

It slowly turned you to a good boy lol

[Dannyboy]

I don't get pre-session jitters anymore. They are replaced by pre-surgical jitters.

Dannyboy

[Ford Ranger]

On 6/2/2025 at 10:08 PM, Mistress Ito said:

It slowly turned you to a good boy lol

lol. I have gotten even more compliant over time Mistress. It’s true.