Misbehaved Sub

[Farm Boy]

Seeking thoughts and experiences from Mistresses and subs alike.  
I tend to be a very respectful and obedient sub. When I’m told to lick, I lick.  When I’m told to bend over I bend over.  When I’m told to spread my legs I spread my legs (ok, I’ll hedge a little on that one because I usually know what’s coming next). I’ve often wondered what would happen if I wasn’t obedient.  What if I responded, “Go f*ck yourself you dumb c*nt!”  Any one have any experience with this kind of scenario.  Very curious but too afraid to test it out. 

[Mistress Matira]

You get beaten into compliance. Obviously. And shown that the only cunt in this room is the one I use between your legs ❤️ 

[Mistress Matira]

That said… I much prefer an obedient sub. It’s a demonstration of respect to the domme. I have little tolerance for subs who test me; those kinds of interactions do not put me in a mindset I enjoy. Then again… in a prenegotiated scene I break brats with relish, and enjoy it, too.

Edited February 14 by Mistress Matira

[Mistress Lovely]

2 hours ago, Farm Boy said:

Seeking thoughts and experiences from Mistresses and subs alike.  
I tend to be a very respectful and obedient sub. When I’m told to lick, I lick.  When I’m told to bend over I bend over.  When I’m told to spread my legs I spread my legs (ok, I’ll hedge a little on that one because I usually know what’s coming next). I’ve often wondered what would happen if I wasn’t obedient.  What if I responded, “Go f*ck yourself you dumb c*nt!”  Any one have any experience with this kind of scenario.  Very curious but too afraid to test it out. 

A pleasant discussion on alternative pronunciations of “please mistress, I need attention!” 

[franknot]

2 hours ago, Farm Boy said:

Seeking thoughts and experiences from Mistresses and subs alike.  
I tend to be a very respectful and obedient sub. When I’m told to lick, I lick.  When I’m told to bend over I bend over.  When I’m told to spread my legs I spread my legs (ok, I’ll hedge a little on that one because I usually know what’s coming next). I’ve often wondered what would happen if I wasn’t obedient.  What if I responded, “Go f*ck yourself you dumb c*nt!”  Any one have any experience with this kind of scenario.  Very curious but too afraid to test it out. 

  Hey  FB ...The closest I've ever come to being blatantly disrespectful was during my first ever fortress session with the stunningly beautiful Mistress Rey. 

  While evaluating her newbie's limits she caught me staring at her and instructed me never to look directly into her eyes.  I continued to stare so she instantly slapped my face. 

  I discovered that I really liked it and refused to look down... so she slapped my face 4 or 5 more times with increasing force until common sense took over and I finally submitted. 

  To this day I still enjoy random and unexpected face slapping. 

  Thank you Mistress Rey. 

 

 

[Jinjadood]

4 hours ago, Farm Boy said:

Seeking thoughts and experiences from Mistresses and subs alike.  
I tend to be a very respectful and obedient sub. When I’m told to lick, I lick.  When I’m told to bend over I bend over.  When I’m told to spread my legs I spread my legs (ok, I’ll hedge a little on that one because I usually know what’s coming next). I’ve often wondered what would happen if I wasn’t obedient.  What if I responded, “Go f*ck yourself you dumb c*nt!”  Any one have any experience with this kind of scenario.  Very curious but too afraid to test it out. 

I don’t mind mind admitting that I’m too chicken to not do as I’m told by my Domme. These women can be sadistic and cruel for fun, the last thing I wanna do is piss them off and make them angry. I can’t even imagine the depths of depravity they would go when angered. 

[GentlemanRoleplayer]

4 hours ago, Mistress Matira said:

Then again… in a prenegotiated scene I break brats with relish, and enjoy it, too.

Yes! There is something fun and erotic about purposely misbehaving and then facing the consequences. 

[Karl]

On 2/14/2026 at 10:47 AM, Mistress Matira said:

That said… I much prefer an obedient sub. It’s a demonstration of respect to the domme. I have little tolerance for subs who test me; those kinds of interactions do not put me in a mindset I enjoy. Then again… in a prenegotiated scene I break brats with relish, and enjoy it, too.

 

Mistress Matira, I’d be interested in your thoughts about a session I had years ago.

At the start, the domme had ordered that I was never to pass in front of her. Near the end, with me on all fours, she ordered me to go to a specific point. The obvious path was to crawl in front of her. Remembering the command from an hour earlier, however, I dutifully crawled in a semicircle around behind her back. She commented on my obedience.

What I’ve always wondered, though, is whether she would have been happier if I had done otherwise – not to test her, but simply because I’d forgotten her rule. IOW, does she demonstrate her superiority by punishing me for being an incompetent sub, or by exacting my compliance on a minor point? Your comment makes me think you’d be in the latter category. I demonstrated my respect for her by retaining her command in my head through everything else that went on.

[Mistress Matira]

On 2/14/2026 at 1:06 PM, Jinjadood said:

I don’t mind mind admitting that I’m too chicken to not do as I’m told by my Domme. These women can be sadistic and cruel for fun, the last thing I wanna do is piss them off and make them angry. I can’t even imagine the depths of depravity they would go when angered. 

Smart man

[Mistress Matira]

21 hours ago, Karl said:

 

Mistress Matira, I’d be interested in your thoughts about a session I had years ago.

At the start, the domme had ordered that I was never to pass in front of her. Near the end, with me on all fours, she ordered me to go to a specific point. The obvious path was to crawl in front of her. Remembering the command from an hour earlier, however, I dutifully crawled in a semicircle around behind her back. She commented on my obedience.

What I’ve always wondered, though, is whether she would have been happier if I had done otherwise – not to test her, but simply because I’d forgotten her rule. IOW, does she demonstrate her superiority by punishing me for being an incompetent sub, or by exacting my compliance on a minor point? Your comment makes me think you’d be in the latter category. I demonstrated my respect for her by retaining her command in my head through everything else that went on.

She doesn’t need to demonstrate her superiority—she simply is.

Me, personally—I would have been happy with either course of action. The first because your obedience would please me, the latter because I get an opportunity to punish you for your misstep… miscrawl as it were… and I enjoy punishment. It sounds to me that she was testing you.

I will admit I do enjoy assigning an impossible task and punishing you for failing to accomplish it 😇 

[Farm Boy]

On 2/14/2026 at 10:47 AM, Mistress Matira said:

That said… I much prefer an obedient sub. It’s a demonstration of respect to the domme. I have little tolerance for subs who test me; those kinds of interactions do not put me in a mindset I enjoy. Then again… in a prenegotiated scene I break brats with relish, and enjoy it, too.

In all honesty Mistress Matira,  I agree in the the importance of being respectful.  On a certain level it’s part of creating a safe environment for the Mistress.  Belligerent or disrespectfully behavior on the part of a sub might undermine their comfort level, particularly if you didn’t have a history together.  With all that said, rest assured, when we finally meet, my response to a kick in the balls will be a simple “Thank you, Mistress.” And I will obediently spread my legs in anticipation of another kick. 

[Farm Boy]

On 2/14/2026 at 11:19 AM, franknot said:

  Hey  FB ...The closest I've ever come to being blatantly disrespectful was during my first ever fortress session with the stunningly beautiful Mistress Rey. 

  While evaluating her newbie's limits she caught me staring at her and instructed me never to look directly into her eyes.  I continued to stare so she instantly slapped my face. 

  I discovered that I really liked it and refused to look down... so she slapped my face 4 or 5 more times with increasing force until common sense took over and I finally submitted. 

  To this day I still enjoy random and unexpected face slapping. 

  Thank you Mistress Rey. 

 

 

I love the unexpected face slaps too.  The question is how do you signal to the mistress that you want it and it still be a surprise?!  A slaves dilemma! 

[Karl]

6 hours ago, Mistress Matira said:

I will admit I do enjoy assigning an impossible task and punishing you for failing to accomplish it 😇 

I’ve experienced this. I have mixed feelings about it. How it feels to me: The domme is implying that she can’t punish me unless I do something wrong. Then she is, in effect, cheating to evade her own rule, by giving me an impossible (or very difficult) task. I fail at the task but it’s not because I did anything wrong.

The dynamic that works better for me is that she doesn’t need to justify inflicting pain or humiliation or whatever she pleases. I’m her property. For the time in session, I’ve surrendered my will to hers. I have no rights except for adherence to previously stated hard limits. She can indulge her whims, for a good reason, a bad reason, or no reason at all – whatever would please her at that moment. The setting of an impossible task, as a pretext for punishment, undercuts that feeling.

Nevertheless, I’m guessing that there are some subs for whom Mistress Matira’s method works better. The sub is being treated unfairly but can’t do anything about it. That powerlessness emphasizes the sub’s surrender.

[Mistress Matira]

23 minutes ago, Karl said:

She can indulge her whims, for a good reason, a bad reason, or no reason at all – whatever would please her at that moment.

I think we may be in more alignment than you think. Sometimes it’s simply fun to watch you flounder  

[GentlemanRoleplayer]

17 minutes ago, Karl said:

I’ve experienced this. I have mixed feelings about it. How it feels to me: The domme is implying that she can’t punish me unless I do something wrong. Then she is, in effect, cheating to evade her own rule, by giving me an impossible (or very difficult) task. I fail at the task but it’s not because I did anything wrong.

The dynamic that works better for me is that she doesn’t need to justify inflicting pain or humiliation or whatever she pleases. I’m her property. For the time in session, I’ve surrendered my will to hers. I have no rights except for adherence to previously stated hard limits. She can indulge her whims, for a good reason, a bad reason, or no reason at all – whatever would please her at that moment. The setting of an impossible task, as a pretext for punishment, undercuts that feeling.

Nevertheless, I’m guessing that there are some subs for whom Mistress Matira’s method works better. The sub is being treated unfairly but can’t do anything about it. That powerlessness emphasizes the sub’s surrender.

Always appreciate someone else's viewpoint and context. Thanks for sharing.

From a different perspective, some folks like to 'act out' and then get the consequences. It's like you're 'digging your own grave'. Maybe not that extreme, but you understand. Mistress Matira referred to it as 'break brats' (Breaking Brat? Skyler punishes Walter White roleplay?! ☺️). 

Now, I don't think you should ever be blatantly rude or inappropriate. Not good. But being a little snarky or cheeky can be fun. Like the bad little boy who needs to be punished, lol. And he knows with each misstep and misdeed, it's only going to get WORSE. But he can't help himself....so the Mistress will have to show him what happens when he misbehaves. I don't know what you'd call this type of scenario....

The Deliberate Delicious Downfall?

The Inevitable Irresistible Intoxicating Internment?

The Sensual Sordid Submission? Spiraling Self-Sabatoge Surrender?

[franknot]

On 2/16/2026 at 9:57 AM, Farm Boy said:

I love the unexpected face slaps too.  The question is how do you signal to the mistress that you want it and it still be a surprise?!  A slaves dilemma! 

   Indeed,  the sudden surprise is everything!!

   All I've ever done is list my favorite 'likes' as prominently as possible when requesting a session with a new Domme.. and hope the stars align.  Not counting my unexpected face slapping bonanza from Mistress Rey I'm at 2 for 4.

  * I usually list face spitting & face slapping as one. 

[Mistress Dalisay]

On 2/14/2026 at 8:07 AM, Farm Boy said:

Seeking thoughts and experiences from Mistresses and subs alike.  
I tend to be a very respectful and obedient sub. When I’m told to lick, I lick.  When I’m told to bend over I bend over.  When I’m told to spread my legs I spread my legs (ok, I’ll hedge a little on that one because I usually know what’s coming next). I’ve often wondered what would happen if I wasn’t obedient.  What if I responded, “Go f*ck yourself you dumb c*nt!”  Any one have any experience with this kind of scenario.  Very curious but too afraid to test it out. 

You would test a Mistress like this? Knowing we have plenty of experience with all the toys in the room to use to our whim? You should be afraid.

Personally, I would not take too kindly to that behavior. Depending on the delivery; if it were said jokingly, I would just add it as a tally for your punishments. However, a comment such as this would instantly boost you up five times over. (Ex. You’d go from 10 to 50 real quick) I believe in sharing a little bit of the good and bad in a session, but I don’t think I’d turn down the opportunity to be the ultimate tormentor.

Now if you were to say it with an “aggressive” tone…….perhaps a ball gag and a predicament bondage would work best for the remainder of the session. Left with no way of begging for mercy, how do you expect this plan of yours to play out?

I expect better from you Farm Boy, but I know you can bite back too. The difference between yours and mine? I’ll take a chunk outta you.

[Mistress Dalisay]

On 2/14/2026 at 1:06 PM, Jinjadood said:

I don’t mind mind admitting that I’m too chicken to not do as I’m told by my Domme. These women can be sadistic and cruel for fun, the last thing I wanna do is piss them off and make them angry. I can’t even imagine the depths of depravity they would go when angered. 

One of my favorite things is seeing how much weight the cock and balls can carry. Imagine all four of your limbs are bound and in your reflecting you watch me eagerly put weights, metal cuffs, maybe even a whole yolk to dangle from your precious parts.

Can’t you feel the tug? The stretching of your skin trying to accommodate for the all the discomfort. Can you image how sensitive it would leave you? And some impact for an extra touch to have you ridding on your borderline. Or, if I wanted to absolutely violate you, I’d stare deep into your eyes as I gradually squeeze my hands around your balls.

Now imagine what I would do if I was angry 😃

[Jinjadood]

1 hour ago, Mistress Dalisay said:

One of my favorite things is seeing how much weight the cock and balls can carry. Imagine all four of your limbs are bound and in your reflecting you watch me eagerly put weights, metal cuffs, maybe even a whole yolk to dangle from your precious parts.

Can’t you feel the tug? The stretching of your skin trying to accommodate for the all the discomfort. Can you image how sensitive it would leave you? And some impact for an extra touch to have you ridding on your borderline. Or, if I wanted to absolutely violate you, I’d stare deep into your eyes as I gradually squeeze my hands around your balls.

Now imagine what I would do if I was angry 😃

I shudder to think Mistress 😉

now there’s nothing stopping you from giving me instructions where you know I can’t succeed and therefore need punishment but to outright be a brat (without discussing it beforehand) shows a lack of respect for the Domme and any instructions she gives. A happy Domme equals a happy sub (well unless they have weights hanging from their balls of course lol).

@Mistress Dalisay do you enjoy extended sessions? I was thinking my next visit to the fortress would be 3 hours long. Would I learn to regret that decision? Most likely 😄