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Mistress Fei, Freud is good, but I wonder what you think about this quote by philosopher Michel Foucault? I don’t think that this movement of sexual practices has anything to do with the disclosure or the uncovering of S/M tendencies deep within our unconscious, and so on. I think that S/M is much more than that; it’s the real creation of new possibilities of pleasure, which people had no idea about previously. The idea that S/M is related to a deep violence, that S/M practice is a way of liberating this violence, this aggression, is stupid. We know very well what all those people are doing is not aggressive; they are inventing new possibilities of pleasure with strange parts of their body–through the eroticization of the body. I think it’s a kind of creation, a creative enterprise, which has as one of its main features what I call the desexualization [i.e., the “degenitalization”] of pleasure. The idea that bodily pleasure should always come from sexual pleasure, and the idea that sexual pleasure is the root of all our possible pleasure–I think that’s something quite wrong. These practices are insisting that we can produce pleasure with very odd things, very strange parts of our bodies, in very unusual situations, and so on. and “…if there was no resistance, there would be no power relations. Because it would simply be a matter of obedience. ….resistance remains superior to the forces of the process; power relations are obliged to change with the resistance.” (again from “Sex, Power, and the Politics of Identity”) There are some more, but I thought these would be a good starting off point….the creation of new possibilities of pleasure, and resistance must be a part of it. I hope to see you again soon Fei siggy

my goodness. Is she the best or what? Probably # 16/17 in the locking latex set are my favorite from the new batch. Soon…soon...

I crack the whip and you skip, but you deserve it, you deserve it, deserve it, deserve it….. Off topic - let me get my hands, on your mammory glands... siggy

ah….memories of choi

this is an interesting topic. In the beginning I would write very long, detailed emails the week before the session, covering the basics and the details of all my secret desires. After a while I came to feel that the sessions were too scripted and didn't allow for anything organic or spontaneous to happen. sometimes good things happen spontaneously, in the dynamic between two people, that cannot be predicted beforehand, so I was thinking that my detailed emails were restricting the sessions. for a while I had just general emails ahead of time. this worked well too. lately, I had some nuanced interests that probably couldn't be communicated well through email, so I wanted to discuss it with the mistress in the session, but almost every time MTran would walk in and beat me up pretty thoroughly before I was able to start a discussion, lol. One time she did permit me to speak about my interests and what I would like to try in the session, but really it was difficult to do. She was just inches from my face and forced me to reveal what secret desires I wanted to explore. It was not easy to say these things naked in front of a beautiful woman, so I choked and couldn't say much….so she threw me down, tied me and beat me up anyway! siggy

nice one. I hope to see you soon enough. I've sent an email in... siggy

I agree with what you wrote. There are many shades of domination and submission. I enjoy both. I do think that there is a difference between being a 'submissive' and having a submissive fetish of kink. It's kind of like having a submissive urge but it's not fully encompassing siggy

aww man, short notice! Hopefully, next time someone can mention it a week or two in advance. I'd go if I can plan it. To see Choi and Tran in the same room… ahhhh siggy

Happy Bday mistress Choi. I sure do miss our meetings. As a birthday present, I'd like to present to you my collection of half pencils, which I hope you'd let me use (wink wink)

this is interesting....seems like a lot of the sub mentality has had to do with trying to do things or tolerate pain in order to impress the mistress. For me, it's not something I had thought about or felt before. For me, it's more about her ability to overpower me, not just physically but mentally, especially mentally. To turn my urges against me and demonstrate how I could be weak and powerless. siggy

to play devil's advocate for a second - I would exercise caution here. Yes, the possibilities are endless and the fantasizing can bring your mind to many rewarding places, but what exactly might you be jeopardizing here? Is the value of finding out where this may lead worth the potential risk? sig

Wow MZhao, what you say makes a lot of sense. I hadn't really been able to figure it out before. I am very fascinated by your response. Can you say if all dommes are able to do well with psychological domination? What makes one more skilled in this area? And perhaps the most titillating question I'd love to hear your response to > What are your personally favorite ways to psychologically dominate your captives? thanks siggy

I'm curious about what is meant exactly by 'psychological domination'. Can you explain it in some more detail? Is it not physical at all, just mental? I am curious because, I really believe I love psychological domination, but what it is - I can't put it into words. How would you put it into words? thanks siggy

Hi Ree- you must be reading my mind! I'd be really interested in trying this out too. I think i'm going to try to do some research online first to see how to set the stage for this kind of experience. If others have suggestions I'm all ears. Tickling probably would not be so conducive to this, but I'm sure there is enough time to go back and forth, to explore sub space and then to mix it up with some other things. We would probably have to talk things out beforehand first so that we can orchestrate something good. I'm always curious to see what your devilish mind has in store.... If you can, let us know what some of your personal interests and strengths are, and what you like to explore too. Or would that have to be in the other forum. I agree though, sub space sounds like a nice thing to try out... siggy

Hi Mistress Ree, Tough questions! I think the first step is that I am already mesmerized by your beautiful figure, which helps a great deal But as to how does it begin? It's really hard to say. I am not aware of myself entering subspace, it could be 20 minutes before I realize I'm there. I usually realize it when something starts to bring my into the present and I am about to get out of this space. Then there is a few seconds where I recognize this distorted feeling like I'm drugged up, before I snap back to reality. At which point I'm like damn, I want to be there again! I don't slip into it gradually though, it probably takes 5 minutes. For me, I think being blindfolded is an essential first step. I had never tried the hood, and although it was a little big, it did the trick nicely last time. I was cut off from one of my senses - vision, and I think hearing was a little muffled also. This was essential in helping me fold into myself and be drowned away from my surroundings. It helps me not think as much about what I see and what is going on around me. And I tune out. I think we were talking quite a bit last time and this kept my mind thinking of how to answer so I wasn't able to lose myself as much. I also think that any really sharp pain would probably bring me back to the present. In a weird way writing all this out has helped me realize it's something transcendental, like meditation. Like being peaceful, blissfully unaware, but mixed with deep sexual feelings. It's more located in the mind than the body, which I guess is why I always think of a Trent Reznor video when I think about it as it's more about a mindf--k for me than physical pain. Make sense? -siggy It would be pretty neat to try again.

I feel that I am in a good position to attempt an answer to this question, since I have been thinking about it more and more lately. I hope Mistress Ree comes across this post as well since we recently had a chance to explore this. It's really hard to get into sub space. But when I'm there it's absolutely delicious. really, really exquisite. It's almost impossible to put into words. But I'll try. Basically for me I feel that I am always thinking. People are always thinking, worrying, stressing about things. And these thoughts run some interference with your sexuality, your sex drive, arousal. thoughts dampen sexuality. When I've been lead into this sub space, my mind is blank, I am not thinking. I am not acting, I am only receiving. I am a completely passive vessel. I am told what to do, I react. I am not thinking. With my mind out of the equation, I am more fully my body. all feeling, no thoughts interfering. This must also be why it's so hard to describe, because your trying to describe a period where you are without much conscious thought. It seems to me almost meditative, buddha-like. It's hard to describe but it's really amazing. Like being on a drug really. You can tell me to do anything when I am there and I'd probably do it. without really thinking about it. From the outside I probably look very zombie like. What I am realizing is that you can't get into this sub space in a one hour session. I've always done one hour sessions until my last one, which is when I was dipping into this zone. So don't expect to get there in a short amount of time. Another thing I notice is that if there is much talking, it becomes distracting and grounds me, brings me back. To get into this space there really needs to be minimal conversation, maybe just basic commands and that's it. Also, blindfolds, or like in my last session, a hood really helps. So I suggest a longer session, little talking, and being blinded would help get you there. Probably not very hard pain either, that might yank you back the present instead of drifting into space. I consider myself lucky because the only prior experience I had was with a female who was considering being a domme, and she would practice on me once a week for about a year. We would go for 5 or 6 hours at a time, only stopping to stretch or bathroom. With that amount of time, and practice, we really got me going into sub space frequently and it was pretty amazing. Also, I think we were probably doing things that are not permitted at the fortress. Which is a realy shame! Anyway, I hope that helps some people. Does it even make sense? Mistress Ree, let me know if you come across this post as we were recently discussing this.... siggy

Yes, Happy Birthday Mistress Ree...... I hope to be seeing you before the end of the year! -siggy

Hello Everyone, I am a newbie to the world of kink, and, after a lot of nervousness, I managed the courage to visit the fortress for the first time this past weekend. It was a pretty mindblowing experience, as I decided to go all out and request both Mistress Zhao AND Mistress Ree. They really know their stuff and even introduced me to things I never even dreamed I would enjoy, lol. I'll write more details about this experiencein the other forum, just wanted to introduce myself here first. Siggy (aka 'Corey)