Your proudest moment

[Mistress Matira]

Despite the great satisfaction I take in debasing, humiliating, and objectifying you, I will concede that even subs can have feelings of pride, too  

I want to hear about an experience you’ve had that left you feeling pride in your submission… maybe a moment where you pushed your body to endure something you’d never before thought possible—or perhaps it was something quieter, like a session of total attunement with your Mistress, or finally working up the courage to explore a long-suppressed desire?

Don’t keep me waiting now xx

[Goufin_Around]

I've done shibari twice now for 4 hours total. It was so natural for me and I enjoyed it so much that I was shocked after my first session. Then in my second session I was able to get suspended. I was only in the air for a couple of minutes, but I've never been so proud of myself for handling that. I have a tendency to try to be humble to a potentially detrimental degree and that was nowhere to be seen. I was so proud of myself. 

[AioriaRegulus]

My most recent session involved a fair bit of wax play and caning… two things that were not on my bingo card of things I would be in to. But I really enjoyed it. I was quite proud I was able to remain open minded and enable my horizons to be expanded.

[Karl]

I immediately thought of two moments, with a common theme. One session was at the Fortress.  Headmistress Kang was training a new Mistress, and the session involved more pain than I’m used to. I was concerned that, because I identify as a submissive rather than a masochist, I had been inadequate as practice flesh. My proud moment came at the end: Headmistress Kang assured me “You took a lot.” Glad I could help with the training!

 

In the other session, there was no ground-breaking activity. It was just a feeling of rapport with that domme. (The session included golden with consumption, which I can sometimes do but which is sometimes a hard limit. I had booked this session because I knew the domme enjoyed it.) This proud moment also came at the end. As I was dressing, the domme expressed regret that she had an appointment to go to, because otherwise she would have enjoyed continuing. Imagine – a pro domme wanted to play with me even AFTER the time I had paid for had run out!

 

I assume that, for a Mistress, some sessions are better than others. My proudest moments were when the session with me was one of the better ones for her.

 

Of course, there’ve also been times when I could tell she was disappointed, but let’s not think about that.

[Mistress Matira]

On 1/27/2026 at 11:31 AM, Goufin_Around said:

I've done shibari twice now for 4 hours total. It was so natural for me and I enjoyed it so much that I was shocked after my first session. Then in my second session I was able to get suspended. I was only in the air for a couple of minutes, but I've never been so proud of myself for handling that. I have a tendency to try to be humble to a potentially detrimental degree and that was nowhere to be seen. I was so proud of myself. 

No small feat! I’ve never been suspended myself—though I have wanted to try it—and I know it can be quite taxing on the body. How fun!

[Mistress Matira]

On 1/28/2026 at 10:36 PM, AioriaRegulus said:

My most recent session involved a fair bit of wax play and caning… two things that were not on my bingo card of things I would be in to. But I really enjoyed it. I was quite proud I was able to remain open minded and enable my horizons to be expanded.

There’s a video going around the internet right now comparing the D/s dynamic to an omakase dinner, in which the domme is the chef (knowledgable, skilled, educative) and the sub is the patron (at the thrall of the chef)—that I think resonates with your story. It’s really gratifying to try something new and discover you like it. And I also think it’s gratifying to try something new and discover that you don’t like it after all!

Edited January 30 by Mistress Matira

[Mistress Matira]

18 hours ago, Karl said:

I immediately thought of two moments, with a common theme. One session was at the Fortress.  Headmistress Kang was training a new Mistress, and the session involved more pain than I’m used to. I was concerned that, because I identify as a submissive rather than a masochist, I had been inadequate as practice flesh. My proud moment came at the end: Headmistress Kang assured me “You took a lot.” Glad I could help with the training!

 

In the other session, there was no ground-breaking activity. It was just a feeling of rapport with that domme. (The session included golden with consumption, which I can sometimes do but which is sometimes a hard limit. I had booked this session because I knew the domme enjoyed it.) This proud moment also came at the end. As I was dressing, the domme expressed regret that she had an appointment to go to, because otherwise she would have enjoyed continuing. Imagine – a pro domme wanted to play with me even AFTER the time I had paid for had run out!

 

I assume that, for a Mistress, some sessions are better than others. My proudest moments were when the session with me was one of the better ones for her.

 

Of course, there’ve also been times when I could tell she was disappointed, but let’s not think about that.

You come off as open-minded, humble, and devoted in these anecdotes—the best qualities in a sub

[Goufin_Around]

3 hours ago, Mistress Matira said:

No small feat! I’ve never been suspended myself—though I have wanted to try it—and I know it can be quite taxing on the body. How fun!

I had a couple of sore spots from the ropes probably because I’m a big guy. It also became another inspiration to fix my diet and get healthier. While I've spent the last 3 weeks starting to fix my diet, I'm only down 7 pounds in that time, but 9 pounds sine that session. I’m hoping the next time I try it, I’ll be down another 6 pounds and sitting around 205

[franknot]

5 hours ago, Mistress Matira said:

There’s a video going around the internet right now comparing the D/s dynamic to an omakase dinner, in which the domme is the chef (knowledgable, skilled, educative) and the sub is the patron (at the thrall of the chef) ...

Coincidentally.. I haven't seen the video,  but I recommend a really good FemDom novella to Mistress Ito last week called "A Night at the Silk Dungeon" by M.L. Paige that is avaliable on Amazon... The first chapter is titled 'The Omakase  Package' which is the theam of the storyline.

Ms. Paige is a talented author who publishes on Substack and has more than 150 inexpensive E-Books available on Amazon... most featuring Asian Dommes. 

...*PS..another good FemDom author on Substack is D.F. Blair who has just one very good 200 page novella on Amazon titled "Captive Weekend".. (about 5 dollars). 

[AioriaRegulus]

9 hours ago, Mistress Matira said:

There’s a video going around the internet right now comparing the D/s dynamic to an omakase dinner, in which the domme is the chef (knowledgable, skilled, educative) and the sub is the patron (at the thrall of the chef)—that I think resonates with your story. It’s really gratifying to try something new and discover you like it. And I also think it’s gratifying to try something new and discover that you don’t like it after all!

100% agree Mistress. Very apropos comparison. Both amazing experiences I happen to love! 

[Farm Boy]

I think I’d approach the question from a different angle. 
First, I’d say my proudest moment was summoning the courage for my first session.  After years of curiosity and web surfing, it took a lot for me to make the appointment, call from a street corner a block away for instructions, walk up the steps to the dungeon and enter a new world.  I was scared to death, sweating like a pig.  But overcoming that fear was life changing. 
Second, I’m proud for embracing dungeon life and the fact that it makes me fulfilled.  BDSM (I’ll use that term to broadly cover a wide array of dungeon  activities) is not socially acceptable.  We are told it’s for perverts and degenerates and not something in which we should engage.  But over the last decade I’ve realized that it’s ok to  enjoy crawling on the floor like a dog on a collar and leash and lap pee out of a dog bowl.  It’s ok to enjoy having electric current jolt through your balls until you’re screaming and pain and red faced.  It’s ok to go to work in lace panties (like I’m wearing right now). It’s ok that my only tattoo was ordered by my mistress. So I’m proud that I’m good with being a slave, a sub, a masochist and a sissy.  It’s what I am and there’s nothing wrong with it. It takes some courage to get there. 

[bart93]

I don't necessarily feel proud, but I had a special feeling when I had my first prostate orgasm.