Dating a Domme - What not to say!

[Jinjadood]

I thought I’d start a fun topic to see if anyone else can come up with some fun normal relationship phrases that you shouldn’t say if you’re dating a Dominatrix. Obviously these are just for fun as a lot of people may go out of their way to say them lol.

so I’ll start with one:

Lets hit the sack.

 

lets see what other fun phrases you fun people can come up with 😀

[Lilbitchbobby]

I’m friends with a domme.  Most of the time we don’t even talk about it.     Just sports and music  of course she wants me to take her shopping 

[GentlemanRoleplayer]

19 hours ago, Lilbitchbobby said:

I’m friends with a domme.  Most of the time we don’t even talk about it.  Just sports and music  of course she wants me to take her shopping 

That makes sense. Without meaning to ruin the fantasy here, I think the dommes are just normal people with a very interesting job! 😉

When they go home, they probably want to decompress and nurture other parts of themselves. Some might even want to be dominated in their personal life after expending tons of energy (emotional, physical, mental, social, etc.) on others. Just like a therapist/psychologist needs to unload their burdens to another therapist. It's not easy being 'on' and giving all the time as a performer. Being able to let go and decompress is important for good health.

Here are a couple of interesting articles providing some insight:

https://therumpus.net/2014/08/07/lessons-i-learned-as-a-dominatrix-10-things-that-dont-exist/

-"Being a pro dom is part theater, part service, part therapy."

-"Play is how we learn. One of the many job perks of a dominatrix is the opportunity to embody different archetypes, to be spontaneous, to react to and lead another mind and body in a new direction. A good session is a gorgeous dance, and a good dominatrix can lead with a spirit of fluidity.

https://www.vice.com/sv/article/what-do-dominatrixes-do-on-their-days-off-217/

-"Mona writes about motherhood and sex work in the same space, she keeps the two roles very distinct. “Have you ever been to Hawaii?” she asks me. “You get off the plane and the air is different and it helps you get into that vacation mode. The same thing happens at the dungeon. The same thing happens when I pick up my child at school. Each time, I’m stepping into a different world and role.” "

-" “You’re taking a lot of people’s energies,” says Mona "

[Mistress Lovely]

On 4/20/2026 at 5:35 PM, Jinjadood said:

I thought I’d start a fun topic to see if anyone else can come up with some fun normal relationship phrases that you shouldn’t say if you’re dating a Dominatrix. Obviously these are just for fun as a lot of people may go out of their way to say them lol.

so I’ll start with one:

Lets hit the sack.

 

lets see what other fun phrases you fun people can come up with 😀

“I just need a little space.”

”Don’t keep me in suspense!” 

“You never let me finish…”

[AioriaRegulus]

On 4/20/2026 at 5:35 PM, Jinjadood said:

I thought I’d start a fun topic to see if anyone else can come up with some fun normal relationship phrases that you shouldn’t say if you’re dating a Dominatrix. Obviously these are just for fun as a lot of people may go out of their way to say them lol.

so I’ll start with one:

Lets hit the sack.

 

lets see what other fun phrases you fun people can come up with 😀

“Let’s get something to tie me over”

”Can you help me plug that hole?”

”We should wrap it up”

[Mistress Matira]

Beat around the bush 🙈 

[franknot]

 My personal favorite..

..'can't teach an old dog new tricks'. 

 

[Mistress Ito]

I think it depends on the domme. But don't compare the domme gf to the others 

[Tyro Tim]

There’s always the tried and true to express exasperation:  “Fuuuuck meeee.”

[uroboros]

Honesty is always preeminent when encountering people. Be yourself. Be interesting and interested. I am a mistress-monger and I worship and have always been dazzled by women in the biz. 

In my youth I did all kinds of sex work, model, stripper, escort, adjunct in femdom sessions and all the women in my life were sex workers too. The main reason I became a stripper was so that I would be interesting to the downtown doxies who were habitudes of the nightclubs I went too. (CBGB's, Mud club, Jackie 60 etc.) I was beautiful but shy and I strove to emulate the women I admired by being alluring; trying to absorb some of their devastating radiation. 

As to what NOT to say: The same rules apply as with congress of any kind, especially dating.

Fabulous dinner party pictures, Love, Marco

 

[Mistress Ito]

On 4/24/2026 at 6:00 PM, Tyro Tim said:

There’s always the tried and true to express exasperation:  “Fuuuuck meeee.”

Not true I like bratty subs 

[Mistress Ito]

On 4/25/2026 at 12:54 PM, uroboros said:

Honesty is always preeminent when encountering people. Be yourself. Be interesting and interested. I am a mistress-monger and I worship and have always been dazzled by women in the biz. 

In my youth I did all kinds of sex work, model, stripper, escort, adjunct in femdom sessions and all the women in my life were sex workers too. The main reason I became a stripper was so that I would be interesting to the downtown doxies who were habitudes of the nightclubs I went too. (CBGB's, Mud club, Jackie 60 etc.) I was beautiful but shy and I strove to emulate the women I admired by being alluring; trying to absorb some of their devastating radiation. 

As to what NOT to say: The same rules apply as with congress of any kind, especially dating.

Fabulous dinner party pictures, Love, Marco

 

Agree! 

[Mistress Matira]

On 4/25/2026 at 12:54 PM, uroboros said:

Honesty is always preeminent when encountering people. Be yourself. Be interesting and interested. I am a mistress-monger and I worship and have always been dazzled by women in the biz. 

In my youth I did all kinds of sex work, model, stripper, escort, adjunct in femdom sessions and all the women in my life were sex workers too. The main reason I became a stripper was so that I would be interesting to the downtown doxies who were habitudes of the nightclubs I went too. (CBGB's, Mud club, Jackie 60 etc.) I was beautiful but shy and I strove to emulate the women I admired by being alluring; trying to absorb some of their devastating radiation. 

As to what NOT to say: The same rules apply as with congress of any kind, especially dating.

Fabulous dinner party pictures, Love, Marco

 

What a past! I’m intrigued. And your motivations are completely understandable… anything for the attention of beautiful women!