Mistress Zhao

Since it's been raining for 3 days straight here, I thought I'd put up a sunny pic

They all shrink when I'm around

Thanks for asking, skeech. First of all, I have to say that addiction comes in several forms. In many cases, being addicted to someone is usually an escapist tactic for not wanting to deal with other more pressing issues at hand in one's life. For example, a failing marriage. I have never directly coached a sub client in ways of personal affairs involving others. All I can really do is hold up a mirror for one to perhaps see who they are in the current situation. And this, of course, is after building a rapport with regularity and concern for a sub, thus the addiction. Luckily, most of my clients are intelligent enough to see where their life is faltering and take corrective action toward their shortcomings. Additionally, I am in no position to refuse service to anybody based on my professional position here at the Fortress. It's all a matter of manipulating a session to create the feeling of triumph or defeat for the client. The subtleties are what determine the outcome.

Always!! I will never decline a foot massage unless you're totally clueless and start rubbing the *top* of my foot...

hi micheal, Aren't you glad you came in? We now know what kinda of lingerie you look best in. And how well you can hump a pole! Stuff you never knew before!! xx

Thanks Johnny I will keep posting pics of my feet's new adventures.

Sometimes, a client will have an idea of how he would like a switch session to unravel, but then his mood may change. I've actually had a few sessions where I initially topped, and come time to switch, the client decided to continue with the current scenario. And vice versa, of course. It's not usually about being "unable" to turn the tables, but whatever the mood dictates.

Seriously, though. I saw some very disastrous photos of Irene's damage. Condolences for anyone's losses. It's humbling how Mother Nature will always be the greatest equalizer.

my toes say hello

You were the most unique and pleasurable brush. Ever.

siggy, In most cases, psychological domination is simply an inherent element in what we do. I would say that most dommes are aware of the element of psychology in their play, but I'm sure there are some who do not focus on it as much as others. What makes one more skilled in this area are experience and education. This profession is filled with intricacies and depth, and those who cannot substantiate their play with a mental aspect may not find it fulfilling. I see my role in this profession as a therapist of sorts. The twisting of what I believe is "good for you" is one of my favorites. Also, the silent treatment is another favorite

Thanks tommy! Fortunately, I put in a request with the weather department. My memo to Irene was: suck it. And, like an obedient hurricane, Irene was barely a category 1 wet willy.

awww...you're hung like a bellybutton!

michael, I've snapped my fingers and am impatiently tapping my toe. See you soon.

siggy, Psychological domination explores the mental realms of your desires. Fear, anxiety, emotional manipulation, unrequited desire, repetition, etc. Instead of simply tying someone up and beating them, you engage the client in a more cat-and-moust type of chase, where there are aspects of the situation that are unspoken and hopefully misconstrued. These are not purely mental, but start in the physical, and affect the mental. For example, one of our clients is very intelligent and inventive, thus cerebral. He likes to be outsmarted and overpowered, but not necessarily with brute force. Games are a great way to engage and captivate in a more mental way. Trickery is key in psychological domination as well.

I concur with Mistress Jung that a switch session is enjoyable for the revenge aspect. You get the gamut of sadism and masochism in a short, concentrated span of time which can really keep you on your toes as well as teach you about what you like/dislike about the dynamic switch. Sometimes switch sessions can be tricky, mainly because of the mental space you occupy as the top, and having to go to such a polar opposite in a short amount of time. I find that usually switch sessions are more enjoyable when there is at least 2 hours to fully enjoy the experience. Thirty minutes feels like a somewhat rushed encounter.

hi baby kangaroo, The mind is indisputably the most powerful sexual organ. It's also our most acute sensor of fear. I agree with you that psychological domination can being about the most torturous thoughts, but also the most pleasurable and intoxicating sensations. When I was young, my mother would punish me by not speaking to me for days on end. A new day would roll around and she still would not speak to me. When she finally forgave me, it was such a rush of relief to hear her voice. One of my very favorite ways to play with someone's mind is to be completely silent and unyielding with a sub, especially one with whom I've established a repertoire with, just to keep him guessing. This way, I can get him to do more things he probably wouldn't normally do, just because he's dying to please me, thinking that I am displeased. Sometimes I have him wear a hood, too, so that he can't see my face or predict what's coming next. I also enjoy the visual aspect of making someone believe I will be using certain tools and/or instruments which I've laid out on the table for them. Some are so foreign and arcane that they have no idea what it's even for, but fearful of the pain it will bring. Good times!