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"You know how men like boobs." "Uhmhmmm..." "Well some women like balls like that. And you have nice juicy balls."
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12 hours ago, Mistress Rey said:
I agree with this response. It's none of Mistress's B business!
If it's as simple as someone demanding intel on someone else just because, or something like that, then I agree with you and everyone saying it'd be none of her business. But for me, this scenario only works if I imagine it *is* her business, in some manner or other. It's hard for me to imagine feeling that loyalty and care towards someone who would demand I break a confidence just for the fuck of it. I've been in situations when I've agreed to keep something to myself for X, but doing so wound up being cruel to Y and yet doing X no real favors, and I had to make a judgment call beyond a simplistic principle. Relationships—and we ourselves—are often so much more richly contoured than the principles we imagine ourselves living by.
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On 4/29/2018 at 1:09 PM, Mistress Kang said:
How aware are you of your Mistress' every move? Do you know what's about to happen before it does? Have you studied your Mistress so well that you know all of her tell tale signs? What are they? Have you ever been wrong?
As a Domme, we watch our subs intently but I often wonder if they're paying as much attention.
I've had times when I thought, "Well I know Mistress Rey isn't going to do that..." and then of course that's precisely what she did, as well as times when I've thought, "Oh no, she's definitely going to..." but then she didn't at all. The fact that I can tell how much she enjoys my disorientation brings pleasure and joy to the confusion and dread. It's quite a combo.
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On 5/5/2018 at 1:19 PM, Mistress Alexia Zito said:
The element of surprise is really important to me in sessions. Of course, some things require setting up and a short period of down time to do so. I appreciate when a submissive waits to see rather than trying to pinpoint exactly what is coming next for them. However, the urge to know what will happen to you is natural. The unknown is scary. I look at this as a form of trying to maintain some control. I urge my subs to let go and try not to scrutinize what I’ll be doing next. It’s a nice exercise in letting go.
I feel like I can usually sense the difference between what I mentioned above and a watchful eye that comes from admiration, which is always welcome.
This whole response makes me feel all warm and fuzzy.
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23 hours ago, Mistress Kang said:
Which one would you choose and would you choose this?
A- sessioning with one Mistress for the rest of your life
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B- sessioning with a different Mistress every single time, never to see the same Mistress twice
HMJK, for you the question has to be inverted:
A- one sub for the rest of your life
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B- a different sub every time, never to dominate the same sub twice
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6 hours ago, Mistress Kang said:
Have you ever seen the movie Momento? What if you chose Option B and created a "roleplay" that carried over from one session to the next. Each new Mistress picks up where the last one left off.
This is delightful! I mean, it seems traumatizing af to me, but I just love the way your mind works. (Also: A, fwiw.)
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21 hours ago, Mistress Kang said:
Not a cop out at all! I respect your answer. It's honest and very realistic, as Mistress Zito pointed out.
Thanks, HM, I appreciate that a lot.
On 5/5/2018 at 12:56 PM, Mistress Alexia Zito said:I like this response, it’s realistic and takes the complicated emotions of the dilemma into account. When someone is submitting they are usually more pliable, and even likely to do something that would be a hard “no” in a less charged situation and I don’t think that is limited to just a session activity. While I think remaining strong in the face of such pressure to betray a loyalty to Mistress A is the objective “right thing to do,” I think many more would be tempted to divulge than are willing to admit out loud.
Ty Mistress Zito ! Sometimes it's hard to treat a hypothetical like a real emotional experiment, rather than a question of principle or logic. But I find them more compelling when I can come closer to embodying them.
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6 hours ago, Mistress Kang said:
Would it be scary enough for you to divulge to eventually Mistress B?
Tough question, MJK! A few years ago I would've said categorically no, but I've learned to loosen my grip on my sense of ideals and morals a bit. Commitments and loyalty are very important, but I'm not living in a vacuum, and I'm not always my own best guide. Relationships are collaborative, and if someone I love and trust is pushing me out of my comfort zone, it's arrogant not to at least consider that I'm being foolish. It's impossible, of course, to really know how I'd respond to these two imaginary individuals, and without embodying the way I'd encounter myself in relation to them, but I think I can say this: If not divulging seemed genuinely to hurt Mistress B, and I didn't think it would hurt Mistress A other than the fact of breach of the commitment, then the answer to your question would likely be yes.
Is that still a cop-out?
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Taking the phrase "loyal servant" very seriously, one thing I can tell you for sure is that my eyes would well up with tears. If I loyally serve Mistress B, it must also be true that I trust and respect her, so I doubt I'd dismiss or reject her request out of hand. The way you frame the situation, it sounds like it would feel to me like a betrayal of Mistress A to divulge it to Mistress B, and I'd hope that Mistress B would understand my commitment. But I really wouldn't want Mistress B to think my commitment to Mistress A diminished my devotion and loyalty to her, and the risk of that would be scary for me.
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18 hours ago, Mistress Zora Jin said:
It instantly curdles??? GROSS
Are we sure that's what the chunks were...?
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32 minutes ago, Mistress Kang said:
LOL I'm generally an optimist. Well, I liked his sex slave punishment room..more specifically the way the rack for crops were mounted on the wall. Aaaand that's about it.
Oh but I do love this detail and your perfectionism!
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On 4/21/2018 at 4:01 PM, Mistress Kang said:
I'm well aware of the mixed reviews of this movie, no need to harp on negative points. Anyone have anything positive to say about this movie? Did anyone learn anything from it? Anything you liked about it?
I love your positivity, HMKJ, but sadly I don't think there's much anyone can say to recommend it.
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13 hours ago, Dannyboy said:
Dear Ms. Rey:
That quote came from "Take The Money and Run." It wasn't a particularly good film but I enjoy watching it every once in a while. It's in my permanent collection.
Dannyboy
That's a plain B.
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"Two girls one cup" is a classic. One of my friends loved finding disgusting videos and bringing us up to his room to show us. "Head in vagina" made a strong impression. I was always unsure whether to find it more alarming that people made these videos or that my friend seemed so eager to track them all down. Now that same friend just sends me constant instagram images of hot women. So tame!
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12 hours ago, Mistress Rey said:
Does anyone have a favorite shibari position they would like to share? I'll do my best to learn it.
I will investigate and report back.
I love when you bind me in ways that feel constricting, but that nevertheless leave me enough movement to worship. It's not long before I forget my predicament when some part of my body can pay homage to your beauty. That said, I will learn how to struggle better for you
Being bound by you is already so seductive. You intoxicate me, and make me feel docile and pliable. There's always a moment when I realize how calmly and eagerly I'm letting you tie me up, how willingly I'm falling into your trap. I simply cannot resist.
I can't imagine what it will be like after your intensive training!
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On 4/1/2018 at 6:03 PM, Mistress Rey said:
You are a wuss, but I can forgive you if you promise to hold out on your safe word.
whatever it takes!
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i promise not to bump this post too many times, but i really loved this promise/threat/provocation:
I want to make your tonsils less concave
prrrrrrrr lol
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1 hour ago, GDH94 said:
I LOVE sensory deprivation. It really goes hand in hand with tickle torture and really intensifies everything. It's funny, a woman I've been playing with isn't ticklish at all normally -- even when she's tied down. But as soon as I put on a blindfold or gag she absolutely loses it. It's like you said, something about losing one of your senses (or the ability to speak) induces total vulnerability and helplessness in the victim.
My most intense experience with this play was probably a few weeks ago when said friend saran wrapped my entire body to a chair for some heavy T&D. Layers upon layers of saran wrap, each limb individually wrapped underneath the main wrap, with only my cock and balls exposed and a small opening for me to breathe. Couldn't see, couldn't speak, and I had one of those noise-cancelling ear buds on so it was like being in a cocoon in deafening silence. It's hard to articulate the emotions I felt then, but It was a vicious cycle of bringing me to the point of orgasm and taking the pleasure away. And since the sense of touch was all I had left, it was heightened to the max and with the denial I felt a sensation of.. nothingness.. like pitch black-abyss-nothing sorta deal. Sometimes she'd come back after a few seconds, sometimes after a few minutes, and I think the longest was close to half an hour. I've attached a (guest forum friendly) photo of that ordeal.
On a side note, at the Fortress I noticed that I can handle corporal a lot better if sensory deprivation is involved, which is weird because I figured it would just heighten the sensation of pain.
Damn!
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I've had a few memorable sessions involving sensory deprivation. Usually it's my vision, and then my head starts moving like a blind dog's does, seeking out the sounds around me with greater care.
But the strongest memory this evokes is struggling to understand, while wearing the gimp mask with nothing but a small zipper over the mouth, and headphones over that, and with my hands chained to something (I couldn't tell where I was anymore), that Mistress Rey was demanding that I shout "I'm a pussy" for screaming and whimpering about the low level of electricity she was sending through me. I finally understood the command (I think she lifted the headphones for a moment to finally get the message across), but then, between the pangs of fear and the tightness of the mask, I couldn't really get the word pussy out of my mouth
"Louder!"
I remember feeling lost, and terrified, and embarrassed, and oh-so-pleased to be such entertainment for Mistress Rey. She knows how to make me desperate, but she also knows how to make me grateful for it. Just imagine the predicaments she could get me into with a mastery of shibari!!! I've been working on calming myself with deep breathing so I can endure such predicaments with more poise for longer periods. She really makes me feel like a wuss sometimes
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Mistress Rey, I so love these reflections and questions of yours. Your points about culture, about the shifts in notions of masculinity across cultures and even within a single culture over time, are so spot on. As it happens, I do think strength and physical prowess are still baked into our culture's sense of masculinity, and I do certainly feel a sense of pride when I turn out to be stronger than someone expected, or a little hit of embarrassment should I turn out to be weaker.
One quirk of my personality is that, over the years, I've become more and more inclined to lean into embarrassment (as I like to describe it). Our knee-jerk reaction to embarrassment or shame is often to try to flee from it, obscure it, or make it go away as fast as possible, but I've learned that it can be more fun to simply own it and endure it. And it often takes the edge off. It's less embarrassing when you're not embarrassed by the embarrassment, and it's less fun to tease someone who doesn't seem to mind it. (Or at any rate it's easier to tease them in a good-natured way.)
But I do, of course, still sometimes hate embarrassment, and I do certainly feel deep shame sometimes. It's hard for me to imagine how someone might get to me in that way, especially what might get to me the most. This reminds me of your post about emotional sadism from a while back. I think to get to me, someone would have to have a pretty good sense of my psychology, and she'd have to make me dwell in decisions I've made that haunt me, and somehow manipulate me into that special kind of shame that hatefully builds on itself. ...if that makes any sense. In any case, it would probably have to be a woman, and a woman I find much more than just beautiful.
I can't think of anything that would qualify as universal shame, but that seems like a really interesting starting point for a good conversation
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Congratulations, Mistress Rey, this is so exciting!
It's been thrilling and inspiring for me to get a small glimpse of your encounter with shibari and your sense of commitment to it. I was never particularly interested in bondage myself, until I felt the passion you've begun to bring to it. It has made my moments learning, or at least trying, to be a better bunny for you feel sacred.
I can only imagine how incredibly powerfully it must resonate with you for you to feel the way you do. From my vantage point, you seem as tickled and excited as you do humbled and dedicated. I'm in awe of the intense focus and dedication you're capable of, and how patient and precise you've been in finding this particular path.
Tokyo is one of my favorite places. It's about to get even better.
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On 3/15/2018 at 9:02 AM, Mistress Alexia Zito said:
I don’t have any experience with “real” hypnotism and haven’t done enough research on it to vouch for it’s validity. It definitely sounds intriguing as a role play though
I wonder if there is a hypnotist mistress out there!
Maybe you can add that to your growing list of crafts! Dominatrix, hypnotist, barber, puppy trainer, stylist, wrestler, dad joke writer, etc., etc.
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5 hours ago, Mistress Alexia Zito said:
I always find the cultural tendencies of Roman Catholics during this time both creepy and so interesting! They really thought of all of the ways to torture, guilt, and humiliate community members.
I spent a good amount of time fascinated with the Spanish Inquisition (an awful time all around). I never knew about this piece of history.
Thanks for sharing this eerie bit of info, Rey! I feel like this can be molded into a historical roleplay (with the Fortress’ blow up doll!) where we force our sub to prove his virility. When he can’t perform we can punish him for failing
LOL I think I would definitely fail this examination. There must be so many Inquisition-inspired torments out there. A friend of mine studies that period and finds the strangest little bits of text. If he shares any particularly intriguing and gruesome things with me soon, I'll try to remember so I can share them with you and see what details they remind you of
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"Come Now!" That's hilarious. Catholicism can be so fucked up! What a lovely little essay. I wonder if the Marquis was presumed to be a cuckold by his second wife, or if the folks in town all accepted that his children were his.
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