Mistress Rey

Sending you lots of affection in return, this thread makes me smile.

You were dreaming of being dommed, under her feet while watching this music video, werent you?

M Katz, that bondage in the photo is beautiful, next time we team up against our prisoner, lets recreate it! Whether he is flexible or not... he'll just have to manage, haha.

Pick an outfit that really titillates you from that site! What would you be found wearing?

Please do write more about slut bondage. You have something going there. I cant believe its not on fetlife. Will you introduce it there? Haha... who knew Snicker bars were so loved by the kinksters.

"How can something come after modern, if modern is the current time? Why not call it futurism? Do people living during a specific time realize they are a part of a cultural shift, or is it more of a retrospective thing? Are we in a movement that has yet to be labelled?" The word modernity is used too liberally to describe current times, and the words modernity and post modern feel confusing until you take a closer look at what they really mean. We still live in the age of modernity, but post modernity is a word to describe the period of time (after the World Wars) when we realized the projects of social change put into motion by modernity were not sustainable. There has yet to be a seismic cultural shift from the age of modernity, so we are still functioning on ideals that we know are dysfunctional, but we have yet to move into a new way of functioning and thinking. Modernity shaped our culture by introducing individualism, secularism, capitalism, and 'universal truth' to us. Think of the Italian Futurist Manifesto defining the Fascist era in the 1930s (end of traditions and religion), the Bauhaus ideal of streamlined capitalist skyscrapers that homogenized global cities around the world (universal ideals applied everywhere despite cultural difference), cult of celebrity and fame with icons like Andy Warhol, Madonna or Michael Jackson (cult of personality/individualism). Modernity was embraced with incredible fervor and optimism, systemically reversing old values like they were the plague. Novelty became the chief emblem of positive value. No matter if it's good or bad, it's just new. I think the downfall of modernity was that it's sense of intellectual independence was capitalized upon. There's this pressure by capitalism to generate new ideas constantly, and it's affected every industry negatively, because it's no longer innovation when it doesn't serve a genuine purpose to improve society. Rather, "innovation" has become a concept to drive capitalism, and do we over consume! We consume products, things, and ideas tirelessly and greedily, and now we've reached innovation fatigue because it was for the wrong reasons. Our avant garde has exhausted it's task. This is where postmodernism comes in. I think post modernism basically means, acknowledging that modernity was not sustainable, but still functioning within it. We are finding it harder and harder to believe in another stylistic breakthrough, and we find ourselves constantly looking back at the decades before for inspiration. Collective thought was so focused on rejecting tradition, (every movement is a rebellion of sorts), they forgot to replace it with a new ideas of how we should live. We are experiencing "enantiodromia", a principle introduced by Carl Jung, which explains that the superabundance of any force produces its opposite. We have been obsessed with the super force of the new, that overturning conventions has become conventional in itself. German psychoanalyst Eric Fromm analyzed how our modern capitalist society failed us psychologically in his book, The Sane Society, (1955). He thinks that the basic human needs of belonging, self fulfillment, a sense of identity and purpose are not being met by a society that revolves around commercialism, secularism, and individuality. It's a really interesting analysis, although written almost sixty years ago, is still quite relevant and I would recommend reading. Moving forward, I think once we wake up from our crazed modern hang over, we will take time to contemplate on how to live more sustainably, sustainable for our mental wellbeing and the environment. I think sustainable is a good word to describe a new era, the new ideal "utopia" beyond the age of modernity. We will realize that tradition is not something to fear, that we have to create progressive ones with good intentions. Individuality and freedom are great achievements of modern culture and provided us with so many beautiful ideas, but we learned that absolute freedom for each individual leads to social alienation, which isn't healthy for the nature of human beings. We will have to find the perfect balance between individuality and tradition, and a sustainable way to live. I really can't imagine what that world could look like, could you?

Slut bondage, did you coin that term or you heard it from somewhere? I understand completely why you would list "being able to untie myself" as a hard limit. It ruins the psychological effect of bondage if you know you can escape at any moment. It's not as fun to pretend that you can't get out for the sake of the scene. And yes, shibari is a beautiful and sensual process, but for positions that can cause limbs to tingle and go numb, you want quick release ties or locks, as you love. If you have more slut bondage photos, I would love if you shared them with me. By the way, that comment wasn't meant for you, but for manpeach.

Exactly, "one feels oneself being slowly drawn into the whole, much in the same way as one becomes absorbed in a fascinating book or movie." The Magnification effect would be a great coined term to describe it. It's giving time to acknowledge every part of the greater whole as to appreciate it fully. I am interested in reading that book now!

Beardlessbard: Im delighted that my historical musings piqued your interest. It would be lovely to talk about in depth in person, especially about postmodernism as there are so may interesting concepts that have come out of that era. We are still somewhat in that time...aren't we? Thank you for the compliment on my writing, may I ask what grade your students are in? Many professors notice that students are no good at writing- I don't know how that happened when communication is one of the most important skills you can have. I would love to know how Amish deal with their repressed sexuality. As far as I know, none have ever made it to the Fortress. Ha. I guess they would have to have permanently left the community for that. Anyway, sexuality is such a strong part of human nature, no matter how conservative a society may be, from Medieval period, Victorian or Amish country, it finds it's way of expressing itself. We are more sexually open but we most certainly are not liberated, not at all. But once we've reached the height of sexual progression, I imagine a world that is more respectful and open to different sexual preferences, accepting of the gender spectrum, fetishes are seen as normal. A world without shame and judgement.

In one of the first episodes of Secret Diary of a Call Girl, she has a S&M session in her apartment. I remember lighting up- how much I wanted to do that too! Mistress von Dietz does bear some resemblance to her! But von Dietz is way prettier.

Remember the first time you were naked with someone? How exhilarating it was to finally pass that threshold, how painfully self aware it felt to have all of you exposed in front of someone, how erotic it was when your senses were intoxicated by their scent and feel of skin. Contemporary American culture has done away mostly with the taboo of nakedness, nudity is thrown in our faces every day, from the way we dress, to how promiscuous our culture has become, internet pornography, to our collective images in media. (I am not saying this is good or bad, merely an observation.) It's a long way from nearly a century ago when table cloths were necessary to cover piano or table legs because they would otherwise compromise someone's otherwise "moral" mind. A time where it was improper for the legs of anything, inanimate object or person, to show. Where women undressed in the dark, shaded their lamps, wore hooded bonnets and rode in closed carriages. (Sounds claustrophobic to me.) Victorian rebels had interesting, miniature gestures of combatting this. It was all in the little coded details, that others who understood what they meant could learn something about their sexual freedom. They would pierce their nipples and other parts of their body, and wear silk petticoats, which rustled seductively when up close. So sensual appeal came through preparations which were hidden by clothing. A Victorian symbol of sexual freedom was an invisible one. What would a man imagine when he heard that rustling of petticoat? It would have probably driven him wild with desire. It all sounds so absurd, but that stifling, heavy clothing of the Victorian era was a response to a new era of secularism, where meaning in daily life didn't revolve around the King of a feudalist age or around God. Before mass production, clothes were handmade, and people had few unless you were wealthy. They were an indication of class rather than emotions or personality. It's hard to imagine a world where clothes were not signifiers of individual personality, because today clothing expresses so much of who we want to be in public. A dress in 1750 was not a matter of what you feel, it was a marking of where you stood in society. A dress in 1890, could express your inner self; make you feel chaste, or sexy. So that Victorian prudery was a backlash against the new concept that you can decipher meaning and personal traits from clothing. So they covered up, laced themselves tightly, veiled their faces even, to hide their inner selves in public in a society that valued sexual chasteness. There was a strong division between public life and private life that didn't exist before and to transgress that boundary was quite serious, even if you were married. In another thread, Beardlessbard brought up how taboo intensifies crossing boundaries. Imagine how intensely erotic it must have been to even see someone's inner wrist, their ankle, their bare neck. Nudity became hyper fetishized in this context, it was more than to be simply undressed. It was about being allowed into someone's life, about trusting someone with their reputation in a strictly chaste society, about granting permission to an intimacy that few would ever have access to. The danger of rejection or shame to one's reputation, the barriers of outer garments, finally shed, the sharp, ecstatic relief once accepted. We've come a long way sexually in some ways, but it's always interesting to look back at history and see what was forgotten and could be appropriated to our benefit today. The fun of that is that we are self aware when we engage, and can still benefit from the emotional thrill. The privilege of intimacy is something we can take from the Victorians and make into a game of permission. The more value placed on it, the more the seeker savors it once he or she finally gets it. The more present we are as we peel the layers of clothing away, revealing gifts of intimacy one after the other. A heel slipped off, a lacy stocking peels away, a sweater comes off, a bra unclasped. Parts are exposed slowly and with much effort, making it that much more rewarding to behold and worship. Wouldn't that be a fun worshipping game?!

Can we roll up to our next event in that?! Amazing

August is right around the corner.

No wrong moves allowed in that position. You mean you're wearing the cheap wig and crying while raped?

It was a very memorable first encounter!

You would get away... With many marks