Fears

[Mistress Dalisay]

Hello Pets,

I wanted us to get a bit vulnerable today. Let’s talk about our worst fears, rational and irrational.

Tell me about what traumatized you. Tell me if your life flashed before your eyes.

Do you try to overcome your fear? Or are you a big wuss who cries at the thought of it?

[Mistress Dalisay]

Unfortunately, I have an irrational fear of heights. I believe it stems from when I was about 5 years old. I was walking through the mall one day with my mom and I thought, “What if the Earth lost gravity and we all floated up into space and died?”, and ever since then I’ve had a hard time looking up at tall things and looking down at deep depths.

I do try to combat my fear since I think it’s stupid and why should I fear anything, right? I’ve gone on rollercoasters, jumped off a cliff, and I go to those attractions here in the city that focus on heights (Ex: The Edge at Hudson Yards).

I even think living in the city has been some sort of exposure therapy. Sometimes when I look up at something tall, I have to stop walking and shut my eyes or look at the ground.

This fear is irrational, but I will get over it someday. My next experiment will be skydiving, but I have to brace myself for that one. No doubt I’d have a heart attack.

[Mummifiedslut]

11 minutes ago, Mistress Dalisay said:

Hello Pets,

I wanted us to get a bit vulnerable today. Let’s talk about our worst fears, rational and irrational.

Tell me about what traumatized you. Tell me if your life flashed before your eyes.

Do you try to overcome your fear? Or are you a big wuss who cries at the thought of it?

One of my worst fears would have to be affordability in nyc.  Born and raised here I can't think of living anywhere else and I have a fear of being pushed out due to affordability for  regular middle class people. The way I try to overcome it is by knowing wherever I end up I'll do good and I'll bring my kinks and toys with me. 

[Mistress Matira]

3 hours ago, Mummifiedslut said:

One of my worst fears would have to be affordability in nyc.  Born and raised here I can't think of living anywhere else and I have a fear of being pushed out due to affordability for  regular middle class people. The way I try to overcome it is by knowing wherever I end up I'll do good and I'll bring my kinks and toys with me. 

Oh man, too real 😭 

[BestSub]

I fear nothing

[Mistress Dalisay]

5 hours ago, Mummifiedslut said:

One of my worst fears would have to be affordability in nyc.  Born and raised here I can't think of living anywhere else and I have a fear of being pushed out due to affordability for  regular middle class people. The way I try to overcome it is by knowing wherever I end up I'll do good and I'll bring my kinks and toys with me. 

Fair fear 😭😭😭😭😭

Unfortunately this city’s known to be hustle central, but it is getting out of hand.

At least your kinks can relieve some stress. Keep indulging, it really helps.

[Mistress Dalisay]

2 hours ago, BestSub said:

I fear nothing

Nothing? Would you put that to the test?

[Mistress Lovely]

On 11/19/2025 at 2:02 PM, BestSub said:

I fear nothing

Delicious. You can sit with the cool kids. 

[Mistress Lovely]

On 11/19/2025 at 10:42 AM, Mummifiedslut said:

One of my worst fears would have to be affordability in nyc.  Born and raised here I can't think of living anywhere else and I have a fear of being pushed out due to affordability for  regular middle class people. The way I try to overcome it is by knowing wherever I end up I'll do good and I'll bring my kinks and toys with me. 

Whips… canes… Zillow postings… 

[Mistress Kang]

3 minutes ago, Mistress Lovely said:

Whips… canes… Zillow postings… 

..oh my.

[Xrispy]

My biggest fear! I enter the fortress  for a session. Mistress Gong( I really miss her) ties me to the silver round bench and shows me the massive toys. Even way  beyond  Sick F’s limits. She smiles at me as she tightens the ball gag. Next she tells me she’s not feeling well and Mistress Kang will be taking over!😂 

[Nitin D]

Mine is being gagged before explicitly stating my hard limits (while specifying CBT in Interests but not stating the limits to which I can go). Mistress then taking me through extreme ballbusting and toys and I not being able to tell her that those are my hard limits 😂

[risotto]

I used to have a real fear of heights and still do in the sense that I can always feel the fear there, but I can always contain it.  A whole lot of hiking got me over it.  When the path isn't wide enough for two feet beside each other and it's 100m down, one needs to deal.  My worst fear would be worrying about what people think of me, though it's very much contextual.  I love public speaking, for example, but I'm extremely reticent of asking for help.

[kimmychimmy]

no bugs for me, not a fan of the creepy crawlys

[Mistress Dalisay]

19 hours ago, risotto said:

I used to have a real fear of heights and still do in the sense that I can always feel the fear there, but I can always contain it.  A whole lot of hiking got me over it.  When the path isn't wide enough for two feet beside each other and it's 100m down, one needs to deal.  My worst fear would be worrying about what people think of me, though it's very much contextual.  I love public speaking, for example, but I'm extremely reticent of asking for help.

I guess my hikes haven’t been extreme enough to test my fears. Thanks, I’ll look into it.

We should all face our fears head on. Yours seems the most beneficial, “asking for help.” Why do you think that is so bad? Are you used to being in charge? Do you want to break that habit?

[Mistress Dalisay]

14 hours ago, kimmychimmy said:

no bugs for me, not a fan of the creepy crawlys

That’s too bad. I bet their little legs would feel so ticklish!

[Mistress Lovely]

On 12/2/2025 at 1:06 PM, risotto said:

I used to have a real fear of heights and still do in the sense that I can always feel the fear there, but I can always contain it.  A whole lot of hiking got me over it.  When the path isn't wide enough for two feet beside each other and it's 100m down, one needs to deal.  My worst fear would be worrying about what people think of me, though it's very much contextual.  I love public speaking, for example, but I'm extremely reticent of asking for help.

I’m not 100% convinced you experience fear at all. 
 

What are your thoughts on stagnation and mediocrity?

[risotto]

1 hour ago, Mistress Lovely said:

I’m not 100% convinced you experience fear at all. 
 

What are your thoughts on stagnation and mediocrity?

Ah, well I wouldn't categorize my attitude toward stagnation and mediocrity as "fear."  I do hate it in myself, in a very serious and non-adaptive way but that's different.  Whereas for what other people think of me, that can be directly anxiety-producing for me.  

[risotto]

On 12/3/2025 at 9:14 AM, Mistress Dalisay said:

I guess my hikes haven’t been extreme enough to test my fears. Thanks, I’ll look into it.

We should all face our fears head on. Yours seems the most beneficial, “asking for help.” Why do you think that is so bad? Are you used to being in charge? Do you want to break that habit?

Not so much being in charge, but being independent.  I only like being in charge of very small teams, for example, where it's more like cooperation.  And believe me, my most important kink is being 100% not in charge.

[Mistress Ito]

I have a fear of Disneyland, the characters are scary to me 

[Mistress Lovely]

On 12/7/2025 at 10:48 PM, risotto said:

Ah, well I wouldn't categorize my attitude toward stagnation and mediocrity as "fear."  I do hate it in myself, in a very serious and non-adaptive way but that's different.  Whereas for what other people think of me, that can be directly anxiety-producing for me.  

I find it very interesting how some people fear being seen inaccurately, while others fear being seen as their authentic self. 

Have begun to notice certain patterns in how easily each type can give up control. 

[AioriaRegulus]

On 11/19/2025 at 10:28 AM, Mistress Dalisay said:

Hello Pets,

I wanted us to get a bit vulnerable today. Let’s talk about our worst fears, rational and irrational.

Tell me about what traumatized you. Tell me if your life flashed before your eyes.

Do you try to overcome your fear? Or are you a big wuss who cries at the thought of it?

I have a fear of people knowing if I’m wrong or I made a mistake. It may sound innocuous, but it’s an awful fear that I grapple with every day. I suspect it came from childhood and inadvertent conditioning from my parents. 

It can be disruptive and even corrosive on both a personal and professional level. And there is simply too much impact in my day-to-day life to leave this fear unchecked. I’ve had to be very intentional and consistently remind myself that it’s human to make mistakes, and give myself some grace. I’ve also had to convince myself that people will equally give you grace and it’s not the end of the world.

Constant work-in-progress.

[Mistress Dalisay]

3 hours ago, AioriaRegulus said:

I have a fear of people knowing if I’m wrong or I made a mistake. It may sound innocuous, but it’s an awful fear that I grapple with every day. I suspect it came from childhood and inadvertent conditioning from my parents. 

It can be disruptive and even corrosive on both a personal and professional level. And there is simply too much impact in my day-to-day life to leave this fear unchecked. I’ve had to be very intentional and consistently remind myself that it’s human to make mistakes, and give myself some grace. I’ve also had to convince myself that people will equally give you grace and it’s not the end of the world.

Constant work-in-progress.

I feel this on such a personal level. It’s exhausting, isn’t it?

At least you know that it is a human experience and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. Imagine how it’s held you back!

Hopefully, you will realize that your consequences are not as severe as they may seem. The following day will happen even if you royally fuck up. Go crazy!!!

[Mistress Dalisay]

On 12/11/2025 at 3:35 PM, Mistress Ito said:

I have a fear of Disneyland, the characters are scary to me 

Wait how am I just during this now lmaooooo

Let’s go set that place on fire 🤪

[AioriaRegulus]

42 minutes ago, Mistress Dalisay said:

I feel this on such a personal level. It’s exhausting, isn’t it?

At least you know that it is a human experience and there’s nothing to be ashamed of. Imagine how it’s held you back!

Hopefully, you will realize that your consequences are not as severe as they may seem. The following day will happen even if you royally fuck up. Go crazy!!!

Super exhausting! Didn’t realize how bad it was until I grew aware of it. … and this is like well into adulthood

I try not to imagine all the times it’s held me back as I’d probably just spiral into regret but I do marvel at how much better things have become when I don’t hide the fact that I too can make mistakes. I guess folks appreciate authenticity (who knew?! 😆)