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I'm not sure I'd ever really felt like an object of desire before then, but that's what I heard and felt in her voice, and then that's what I felt in my body. It was exhilarating while being confusing. It was like hearing a poem in a language I didn't yet speak that I knew someday I would love.

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This is inspiring. I will have to make my favorite dessert, a meyer lemon tart, bring it in, and ask Mistress Zito not to trample (and feed me) all of it, but instead save some to share with the big boss lady

Delightful. This says a lot about the place. I can't wait to return. The silicone mouth is... sort of terrifying, and yet I also sort of want to try it.

Hey New2This (for now)—what a wonderful decision you've made! My first ever session was at the Fortress, too, and as clichéd as it sounds, my only regret is that I didn't come and play sooner. And there's no place better to be than at Mistress Zito's feet! Be as open and honest as you can, but don't worry if you don't have a super specific session in mind. Mistress Zito is knowledgeable and creative and she'll find a way to have fun at your expense Practically speaking, I'd say it's always a good idea to clean up, shower, brush teeth, etc., before session, to whatever extent possible, and follow instructions respectfully and with care. I'm sure others may have other useful tips. But otherwise, just be ready to bow down!

An important life lesson: Whenever my ex put a fresh roll in our apartment, she'd put it under. It drove me mildly nuts. But after a while I asked her why she preferred it that way. She had no idea what I was talking about. Apparently it was just an unconscious choice. So I asked whether she'd care—or even notice—if I were to switch it. She said she didn't care one way or the other, so I went ahead and flipped it to over whenever she put on a new roll. Communication is key.

Over.

This is the best. You're the best.

"You know how men like boobs." "Uhmhmmm..." "Well some women like balls like that. And you have nice juicy balls."

If it's as simple as someone demanding intel on someone else just because, or something like that, then I agree with you and everyone saying it'd be none of her business. But for me, this scenario only works if I imagine it *is* her business, in some manner or other. It's hard for me to imagine feeling that loyalty and care towards someone who would demand I break a confidence just for the fuck of it. I've been in situations when I've agreed to keep something to myself for X, but doing so wound up being cruel to Y and yet doing X no real favors, and I had to make a judgment call beyond a simplistic principle. Relationships—and we ourselves—are often so much more richly contoured than the principles we imagine ourselves living by.

I've had times when I thought, "Well I know Mistress Rey isn't going to do that..." and then of course that's precisely what she did, as well as times when I've thought, "Oh no, she's definitely going to..." but then she didn't at all. The fact that I can tell how much she enjoys my disorientation brings pleasure and joy to the confusion and dread. It's quite a combo.

This whole response makes me feel all warm and fuzzy.

HMJK, for you the question has to be inverted: A- one sub for the rest of your life -or- B- a different sub every time, never to dominate the same sub twice ?

This is delightful! I mean, it seems traumatizing af to me, but I just love the way your mind works. (Also: A, fwiw.)

Thanks, HM, I appreciate that a lot. Ty Mistress Zito ! Sometimes it's hard to treat a hypothetical like a real emotional experiment, rather than a question of principle or logic. But I find them more compelling when I can come closer to embodying them.

Tough question, MJK! A few years ago I would've said categorically no, but I've learned to loosen my grip on my sense of ideals and morals a bit. Commitments and loyalty are very important, but I'm not living in a vacuum, and I'm not always my own best guide. Relationships are collaborative, and if someone I love and trust is pushing me out of my comfort zone, it's arrogant not to at least consider that I'm being foolish. It's impossible, of course, to really know how I'd respond to these two imaginary individuals, and without embodying the way I'd encounter myself in relation to them, but I think I can say this: If not divulging seemed genuinely to hurt Mistress B, and I didn't think it would hurt Mistress A other than the fact of breach of the commitment, then the answer to your question would likely be yes. Is that still a cop-out?

Taking the phrase "loyal servant" very seriously, one thing I can tell you for sure is that my eyes would well up with tears. If I loyally serve Mistress B, it must also be true that I trust and respect her, so I doubt I'd dismiss or reject her request out of hand. The way you frame the situation, it sounds like it would feel to me like a betrayal of Mistress A to divulge it to Mistress B, and I'd hope that Mistress B would understand my commitment. But I really wouldn't want Mistress B to think my commitment to Mistress A diminished my devotion and loyalty to her, and the risk of that would be scary for me.