franknot

Sunday is IWD 2026

Hmm.. curious.. I wonder how they would rate you and Ford Ranger? I've been away for quite a while, but you guys are regulars and who would know your sub-psyche better than them?

Yeah.. my rope bunny is 75% & puppet is 68%.. so kinda balanced. The percentages are interesting especially the minus ones. Maybe a general pattern with fortress subs.. restraints and being controlled just feels 'right'. 'birds ‐of‐a-feather?? ;‐)

"What kind of sub are you?" Has anyone else taken this "What kind of sub are you?" survey? Interesting and psychologically on target.. but for me I wish it could factor in age limitations. My type is listed as: 'The Mannequin' Rope Bunny / Puppet https://www.buildyourdynamic.com/

Hi Mistress Kang.. Just wondering if you had any feedback on the use of the violet wand rosebud sound attachment? When you say " a few " does that mean they're available in different diameters? Thanks

* I've had trouble articulating my thoughts while following the back and forth opinions on this topic. * As if in answer to my wrong-headed refusal to be guided by Mistress Lovely's usual no-nonsense brevity, this substack post appeared the other day and in the first sentence addressed my concerns about Punishment v. Discipline. (* from the post) * " In the realm of Femdom relationships, punishment serves as a cornerstone, far beyond mere discipline. Rooted in deep Power Exchange, these dynamics thrive on trust, communication, and mutual fulfillment." * It goes on to very clearly explain the finer points of 'Punishment' within the FemDom dynamic in a logical way... And I was surprised to find how accurately it represented my overall mindset. As for the 'don't deserve' or 'earned' issue the author clearly comes down on the side of 'don't deserve'. * "...delivering a caning “because I can.” This “for no reason” punishment strips away illusions of fairness, absurd assumptions of negotiation possibilities, plunging the sub into subspace— in the dark depth of the headspace of surrender." * https://open.substack.com/pub/nucai/p/the-multifaceted-role-of-punishment?utm_source=share&utm_medium=android&r=253sjo

Mistress.. But isn't it relative? In the right hands both can bring their own beauty and inspiration to a scene.

And you are both the chisel and the hammer.. while I will be the residue. I yield to my Mistress Goddess.

But they complemented each other beautifully in ancient Rome. Why not here?

Mistress.. Could you consider a third or sub-category.. 'Clarification' .. punishment being used as a tool or instrument for teaching .. to drive home a point of what should ..'be'.. from this point in time forward.

Passivity could be considered lazy submission.. contributing nothing.. no thought or imagination towards enhancing the deeper, emotional urge to be owned and completely controlled. * * * And as for submission in general .. Is there such a thing as submission to a taboo 'thought' ? I recently found myself seriously considering the possibility of acting out an extremely hard limit. This possibility was inspired by a few random Forum comments, and started to take hold to the point where I experienced one of those hazy four-in-the-morning half-dreams that was scary enough for me to make note of in my journal. While a 'thought' isn't as irreversible as an action, mental submission still feels like submission.

I've already commented on this and my views haven't changed. I've always preferred to think of it as 'discipline'.. it seems more elegant, more civilized. And, as with a child, discipline helps to distinguish between right and wrong and focuses on correcting behavior going forward. For someone (sub or child) who simply doesn't understand a concept it need not be a question of deserving or not deserving but can be shaped as a necessary learning experience that helps you to fit in.

* No * * Fuckin * * Way *

Yeah.. You just have to tweak the rules a bit. Strokes have replaced dollars as legal tender. Opps, you landed on Boardwalk with 4 houses.. at 5 strokes per house that'll be an additional 20 strokes and unfortunately you've chosen a cane as your marker. The Mistress owner has a strapon for her marker and gets to choosewhat kind of strokes are given.

My initial thought is 'Eye of the Beholder' .. Isn't all 'play' 'Role-Play' to some extent? So it's your role-character that needs to be resolved. But every sub will be seeing a different 'You'.. depending upon the intensity of the session and the weight and amount of power that is being exchanged. Perhaps it's not you, it's the value of what they're hiding that determines the creature they see. The more precious their secret .. the more fear in their eyes. You be You .. that's why they're there.

But he probably IS her property... and if She landed on him.. and the boot was Her marker .. ????

Sezz you .. Go To Jail.. Go directly to jail.. do not pass Go.. Do not collect $200

Just some clarity.. If I can find my way to that purple room with the analyst couch and a blindfold on the chair next to it would you be able to help?