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Ahhh, shit... sono cosi deluso... Ms Kang ..must you be so cruel in everything you do?

Does Ms Zito really speak Italian? ... Such a beautiful language to simply listen to. My parents were Italian but never spoke it while raising us (except when they were mad) .. and i've always regretted not learning the language. I'm imagining a session where she only speaks/commands in Italian and my being severely punished and humiliated for not understanding .. the more i plead "non capisco" the the more i am slapped and punished for not doing what i'm told.. and she repeatedly threatens to "piscia su di te" or "sputo in bocca" whenever i open my mouth. ahh .. Bellissimo.

Good one !!

apparently you've managed to purchase a pair of MVD's special lenses... you should probable remove them before they do permanent damage.. (to your ego)

Dan, Thanks for your thoughts .. and, as usual, sage advice ... That's probably the best way to reflect on things like this.. never knowing of a possible bad ending is preferable to actually living through one... And we have the luxury of painting the unknown in the best colors possible. I'm guessing by your "Murray the K" reference in another post that we're of the same NYC generation, so we're both at that point in life where reflecting creeps in more often... Wishing you well for the holidays .. and whatever the new year brings. Frank

Kramer .. who else.

Come on D-boy, .. why can't you admit to sleeping on a temperpedic bed? ... (not that there's anything wrong with that).

Hey CO... fyi.. an interesting article from the NewYorker .... https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2018/12/17/the-contested-legacy-of-atticus-finch Any plans to try seeing the play?

This is not English Uh-oh k-b, ... sounds like you might be facing detention after class.

Is anyone else enjoying the recent miniseries "My Brilliant Friend" on HBO as much as i am? It may not have been intended to, but it appears to be a story of a true Domme in the making. Lila',.. the very "brilliant friend" of the title, is one of the two main protagonists and, to me, could be a Mistress Rey or Zito at a young age .. dark, strong, supremely confident, and totally without fear. While reading the first novel in the series i got sucked into watching the miniseries, which is in Italian with sub-titles. The visual images and the casting of the young Lila' are terrific.. the casting is great throughout but you can't help but be drawn to her fierce character. The sub-titles are not at all distracting .. in fact they seem to make the story more compelling. I'm not a big fan of t.v. but i find this to be exceptional. From the web... Pseudonymous author Elena Ferrante has written four mega-popular Neopolitan novels that explore the complicated intensity of female friendship. "My Brilliant Friend" is the first in the series, and also the first to be adapted for television. Filmed in Italian, the eight-episode drama centers on elderly author Elena Greco, who learns that the most important friend in her life, Lila Cerullo, has disappeared without a trace. It causes Elena to reflect on the early days of their friendship in dangerous but fascinating Naples, Italy, in the 1950s, when Elena and Lila are two very different girls at the top of their class. The story goes on to cover more than 60 years of their lives as Elena tries to describe the mystery of Lila.

Mistress, i can't imagine what you might have done to DM, ... but are you saying you would be even harder on me than you already were?

i think i know who in the chorus will be hitting the high notes.

Too late DM ... was with her last thurs... and she was not exactly merciful. While i didn't volunteer to take your licks, i got plenty of my very own. Maybe i should post about some of it separately... But Mistress was indeed gracious in another way, which hopefully will be our secret ... although i'm pretty sure she couldn't wait to have a good laugh with Mistress Emma as soon as i left.

https://seths.blog/2015/11/a-thanksgiving-reader/

CO, I should have posted this a few days ago ... but didn't think anyone would be interested... It occured to me that you are the Fortress incarnation of Seth Godin... good advice, well said.

Hey CO, You are one deeep M/F'er. Thanks for the this topic and the dialogue that it inspired between you and keveybaby, By following along with you two, and the Q&A's that developed here .. (along with some of your other posts) ..i've learned more about myself, and my submissive personality than i could have ever hoped to understand on my own. You are effortlessly able to articulate and clarify many of the random thoughts and questions that are buzzing around in my empty head. That you would take the time to share your knowledge, insights and more importantly your actual experiences with a novice who's just trying to feel his way through this maze is beyond generous. The forum is a strange place, ... in that the usual testosterone fueled, ass-holey-ness and competition has not infected the community.. the guys actually try to help each other find their way, It's been just about a month since my first session and i realized quickly that I'm hopelessly lacking in my understanding of the Fortress and the complexities of submissive behavior. While trying to organize my next visit the question of if negotiation was on my mind.. i didn't know if such a thing was possible.. while at the same time i knew that there must be some kind of invisible line in place that would keep me safe. Thanks to you i now have a better sense of things. Enjoy your holiday !

I suppose if i should see Ms Rey before you do i could volunteer to pay your debt.. but i suspect that she would probably agree, .. and collect from you too. Sooo ... ... now seems like a lose-lose. Enjoy the holiday!

tDM.. Thanks for your help, but it kinda feels like you're taking a bullet for me. Sorry bout that.

I haven't been to Aqueduct in years so not sure if it would be Fortress worthy. I believe there is still live racing in December. Hopefully Dannyboy will weigh in and give it a thumbs up or down. ?? If he can manage to accompany you guys he's sure to have a guaranteed long shot or two.

A couple of weeks ago my therapist and i discussed this episode and it felt good to get it out there in the light of day... So i don't mind airing it out here too.. cos it fits the subject pretty well. Many years ago i met and spent 3 exceptional years with my perfect other.. she's also the one who introduced me to a mild and innocent version of BDSM.. we didn't recognize it for what it was, and we didn't have a name for it, and we certainly didn't tell our friends about it ..but it fit us and we fit it. It wasn't just the sex,.. we fit each other perfectly on so many other levels. After 3 years it was time to begin planning our future together and we found a perfect detached one bedroom apartment in a wooded area with plenty of privacy. We couldn't believe our eyes when we saw one of those old fashioned barber chairs in the middle of the large kitchen, and our heads spun with thoughts of the many positions available to strap each other down. We began to acquire furniture by any means possible, and within weeks of our planned move in date, my reality set in. Leaving my wife who had known for years about us was not an issue, but i couldn't leave my 2 small children.. back in those days it just wasn't done so easily. When i tried to tell them i'd be going away i simply couldn't get the words out. So i stayed in that untenable marriage and my perfect other knew enough not to waste her life waiting for me. She made up her mind that it wasn't gonna fix itself, and since she was the one with the strength in our relationship, done was done. Once she was gone i didn't look very hard for someone else ... i doubted there could be another like her. .. so i buried myself in my career and went about forgetting. I finally divorced some years later when the boys were grown, and as they began their adulthood they must have chose sides and didn't really need me any longer. They eventually moved to North Carolina and i haven't heard from them in years. If only i would have answered the siren call of that barber's chair... there is not a doubt in my mind the fairy tale would have followed.