Curious

[Mistress Lane]

What’s the first thing that made you interested in kink or power exchange? Was there a specific moment, book, movie, or experience?

 

[risotto]

Not really.  The slave girl outfit in Return of the Jedi surely had a big impact on me - I'm a switch.  But I'd been already having fantasies that involved me being tied up for as long as I'd been having sexual fantasies.  They just, arrived.  I didn't act on any of those thoughts until decades later, which is surely a shame.  

[Mistress Matira]

2 hours ago, risotto said:

Not really.  The slave girl outfit in Return of the Jedi surely had a big impact on me - I'm a switch.  But I'd been already having fantasies that involved me being tied up for as long as I'd been having sexual fantasies.  They just, arrived.  I didn't act on any of those thoughts until decades later, which is surely a shame.  

So were you Jabba the Hutt in this fantasy? 🤔

[risotto]

30 minutes ago, Mistress Matira said:

So were you Jabba the Hutt in this fantasy? 🤔

I mean, you've met me.

[slave mark]

The Amazons on Xena. I think my liking having chance incorporated into my sessions comes from [url=https://looneytunes.fandom.com/wiki/Early_to_Bet]a Looney Tune[/url] where a cat who loses bets has to spin a wheel for punishments.

[bob973]

Seeeing women in leather leather leather. I cannot take my eyes off like a fly into a spider web I go. 

[Mistress Lane]

20 hours ago, risotto said:

Not really.  The slave girl outfit in Return of the Jedi surely had a big impact on me - I'm a switch.  But I'd been already having fantasies that involved me being tied up for as long as I'd been having sexual fantasies.  They just, arrived.  I didn't act on any of those thoughts until decades later, which is surely a shame.  

Leia's outfit definitely seems to have left a lasting impression on a lot of people. 😄 It sounds like the fantasies were already there, though. Do you think pop culture influenced your interests, or did it just happen to reflect what you were already feeling? And what finally gave you the confidence to explore them years later?

[Mistress Lane]

3 hours ago, slave mark said:

The Amazons on Xena. I think my liking having chance incorporated into my sessions comes from [url=https://looneytunes.fandom.com/wiki/Early_to_Bet]a Looney Tune[/url] where a cat who loses bets has to spin a wheel for punishments.

Xena is such a classic answer. I can definitely see how the Amazons would leave an impression. The punishment wheel is an interesting detail too. Do you think it was the unpredictability that drew you in, or the idea of giving up control to chance? Has that stayed one of your favorite dynamics over the years?

[Mistress Lane]

Leather definitely has a way of making a statement. 😈

3 hours ago, bob973 said:

Seeeing women in leather leather leather. I cannot take my eyes off like a fly into a spider web I go. 

Do you think it's the look itself that draws you in, or is it more the confidence and presence of the person wearing it? Was there a particular movie, show, or moment that first made that connection for you?

[bob973]

42 minutes ago, Mistress Lane said:

Leather definitely has a way of making a statement. 😈

Do you think it's the look itself that draws you in, or is it more the confidence and presence of the person wearing it? Was there a particular movie, show, or moment that first made that connection for you?

Any woman wearing leather in confidence will catch my full attention. There are lots of good movies but one most notable is Mr and Mrs Smith in the dominatrix scene. 

[risotto]

3 hours ago, Mistress Lane said:

Leia's outfit definitely seems to have left a lasting impression on a lot of people. 😄 It sounds like the fantasies were already there, though. Do you think pop culture influenced your interests, or did it just happen to reflect what you were already feeling? And what finally gave you the confidence to explore them years later?

I think pop culture probably did amplify things a little, but most of it was there.  Man, I loved the movie "Bound."  Seriously, it's a popular Hollywood movie that's fundamentally a lesbian bondage flick.   I saw Gina Gershon in "Cabaret" on B'way after that, and while she is not a great singer, she was super hot.  And while it leaves a lot unsaid, Cabaret is probably the kinkiest B'way hit ever.  And after "Bound" not shockingly both Wachowskis turned out to be trans and at least one a serious sub.   And then the internet, starting with Usenet, which is surely before your time.  Before it got killed by spam, I remember looking at alt.sex.bondage on Usenet thinking, oh just gonna be a bunch of nerds, should be funny and boy was I wrong.  

I was always too shy to try to ask for the things I was curious about.  My very first experience was at the Fortress.  Well, I dropped by one of the fetish clubs once, when they still existed, but I went way too early in the night and it was, uggh.  The Fortress seemed like a safe space to explore things I was curious about.   And it has been