theDumbMule

This question is a bit easier to answer but involves a couple of variables. Bondage puts me in that state almost immediately because I then have no say in the matter so it’s easy to just let go. That works even when it’s my first session with a domme. But having a domme right at the the beginning of a session telling me who I belong to, what to do, and what I am doing wrong puts me in a compliant state quickly where I just let go. Having someone I’ve sessioned with multiple times who knows how to manipulate me puts me in that place almost before the session starts as I already feel in that safe but vulnerable state just knowing she already has control over me. Really this gets to the heart of why I session to begin with. I love the total loss of control, being vulnerable, yet feeling completely safe. It becomes a ride for me where I can just let go.

I’ve been thinking about this question a couple of says now. It’s an interesting question because I don’t view sessions as a source of pressure. Even the more intense ones. For me they’re a place I can let go and just go with it. I have safe worded more as I’ve gotten older and things reach my limits quicker than they used to. But even then I wouldn’t describe my feelings as as pressure as I’m putting myself in the hands of someone I trust. When I don’t have to do the thinking I find the pressure leaves. I don’t even worry about letting the mistress down. If…I mean when that happens I trust that she knows how to handle the situation. It’s very liberating.

I think you would be in good hands with any of them. But from personal experience, I found Mistress Lovely to be very good at dealing out a good spanking

I now want to clone myself

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Would you settle for me just “being there”?

The Dark Knight Rises

Putting what you said above in your email to Mistress Ree is a good start. What I usually do is list out what things are my favorite, what things I have done in the past that I enjoy to give them a starting place (it gets them information about where your head is at which I think they like). Then give them “permission “ to try things not listed. Like you I’m pretty much open to going where they want to go as long as they stay away from hard limits. I usually even give a few role play options, again with the intent of providing them with my headspace, not to dictate what the session needs to be. But I usually state these are just my ideas and let them take it from there. It’s always fun to meet new dommes, but one benefit of repeating with a mistress is they often get an idea of what they want to do to you without you suggesting anything. I love it when that happens.