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My relationship with cupcakes is unchanged. I haven't had that kind of awful supermarket frosting since going to birthday parties when I was a kid, but my hatred for it abides. Plus I don't really think of it as humiliation it's just, well I want to say "good clean fun," but that would be somewhat inaccurate.

Oooh, thank you, I really enjoyed that.

This thread reminded me of how much fun I'd had playing with food along with M. Dalisay at our previous session, so yesterday I made sure to bring a bag of groceries. It was absolutely fucking disgusting! I had a great time, so thank you Mistress. We learned a bunch of things, but one important one is that if one intends to use pudding as an artistic medium, it's best to check viscosity in advance.

Hmm. The Pendulum, The Tempest (top) /The Canvas (bottom). Rope Bunny 75%. Sadist came in a touch higher, which I totally do not believe. I'm a mini-sadist.

I did one two-hour food-centered session that was hilarious. Many, many things happened, but one bit stands out in memory. I had brought hideous supermarket frosted cupcakes. I was ordered to jerk off using the frosting as lube and then eat the frosting, while in the steel room cage. Being forced to eat that frosting was one of the meanest things a mistress has ever done to me.

To me, that's a purely semantic distinction, so that's entirely fine. I'm a switch, but I could never, ever, live in a D/S relationship, on either side. Not a criticism of those who want to. If that's how one would like to understand the meaning of submission, in the context of total submission, then I understand it. It's just not for me.

Then, perhaps in the context of a session, "punishment" isn't really the right word. My experience is similar to Karl's. I am submitting for my two (or more) hours, but it is contained. While I'm in that room I will do whatever I'm told, short of courting permanent damage, and I will take whatever I can. I'm a very obedient sub. But, for me, that world starts and ends with the little beeps on the door key pad.

Surely a big part of play is letting out parts of yourself that might be dangerous, might be unpleasant, might be unlikable, might be socially unacceptable, but in a safe, contained environment? Knowing where the monsters are is a kind of power.

Mmm, I don't think I make that distinction. In a session, for me, it's all play, so I don't really feel it's either deserved or undeserved. It's all play. Creative presentation as either deserved or undeserved can be a lot fun though.

Yeah, I would at least try out the feasibility of obeying both, and then ask permission to break one so as to follow the other. Though in every session I've ever had, Mistresses have been kind of gentle on failure to follow unreasonable commands. Which actually gives me an idea for a session request that would involve unreasonable requests and not being gentle.

I'm not sure I've ever been really involved in mind games. Naturally, in the course of everyday life, people have, once in a while, tried to fuck with my head. I was certainly not immune when I was, say, 21. But in the real-life context, I hate mind games and stay away from people who play them. And when I'm engaged in play well that's play; it's all games. I'm aware this isn't really an answer.

Ha! Sissy play isn't my thing, but this thread kinda makes me want to join in just for chuckles.

I do love getting bitten. And biting. I'm generally a no-marks person, but I try to make exceptions for bite marks. I've been described as "badger-like" but there's a reason my profile pic is a capybara. Capybaras are incredibly chill animals and the videos you see on line of them interacting with other species are not fake. They'll just hang out with caimans on riverbanks. But it's interesting to watch them when another animal tries to fuck with them. The capybara just stays totally calm, "whatever, dude" and does whatever the fuck it wants until the other animal gets bored or frustrated and either goes away or chooses to ignore the capybara.

Never hit one yet. But my list of limits is very brief. I guess the closest to this was golden, which I thought I wouldn't like, but I requested to see if I'd like it. My expectations were incorrect. I've also had lots of things I didn't ask for, but it turns out I've liked them all.

Ha! Not my kink, but I love this thread.

Congratulations!

Gradually. I only started really exploring kink about ten years ago, but there had always been fantasies there. So, I kept trying things and kind of checking off possibilities. Foot fetish? No - I kind of like feet, but don't love them. Tickling? Not really ticklish. Feminization/sissy: No, does nothing for me, though it can be kind of funny, so fine to have a bit of that. Pain? No. I like some pain from a sensation point of view, and I like the drained feeling after when it's more intense, but it's the power exchange part/submission part I find really exciting. I like inflicting pain too, again largely as power exchange - I'm neither a real masochist, nor a real sadist. I found that I don't enjoy sessions that are totally pain-focused; it never converts directly into pleasure for me. Bondage? Kind of. Bondage had always been part of my fantasies and I love bondage. But again, a large part of that is the power exchange - have to submit to it. I do also like the feel of bondage; I find it comforting, like the comfort a swaddled baby feels. But I just did a session with M. Dalisay and M. Matira, which I described on the private board, and there was no bondage in it and I didn't even really notice that until it was over. And it was a great session. Verbal abuse? Not really. SPH does nothing for me, nor any of the "loser" stuff, but it doesn't bother me either. I like some verbal abuse in the context of role play and I do enjoy a good threat or bullying, but again, that's power exchange. Body worship? No. I like being "forced" to, say, worship feet in a session, because that's part of the power exchange. But it's not a reward for me. I don't worship a Mistress, I obey her. I'm not sure I could refer to a Mistress as "goddess" and keep a straight face. Though a role play where the Mistress is a literal goddess sounds like a fun idea. I've tried things I don't expect to like and have liked them, but none of the have to be in a session for me to have a good time and again, it's pretty much the power exchange, or the sensory experience parts I enjoy. Objectification? Sort of. I really enjoy objectification, but I think of it as an extreme form of power exchange. If I'm just an object, I have no will, no volition and 100% of the power rests with the Mistress. I know that my lack of specific fetishes has left some Mistresses frustrated. On the other hand, the fact that I like so many things means that I enjoy a whole lot of different kinds of sessions, so typically a Mistress doesn't really need to "get" me for me to have a good time.

I saw this question yesterday and have been thinking about it, because I found it interesting. For me, I've learned a few things, but not a lot of deep insights. I've learned just how novelty-seeking I am, which turns out to be a lot, like really a lot. I've learned that my only real fetish is power exchange. I've always thought of myself as good in a crisis and my scenes have reinforced that opinion. I've never freaked out (though I've safeworded out exactly twice), I've never said no to anything, (maybe once, but I think she was joking and she didn't make it a command), I always stay (relatively) calm, just a bit nervous, always, which is good, and I've been frightened only once.

Oooh, ooh, me too. For my fantasy it's important that they just come into the locker room from playing a game.

Not so much being in charge, but being independent. I only like being in charge of very small teams, for example, where it's more like cooperation. And believe me, my most important kink is being 100% not in charge.

Ah, well I wouldn't categorize my attitude toward stagnation and mediocrity as "fear." I do hate it in myself, in a very serious and non-adaptive way but that's different. Whereas for what other people think of me, that can be directly anxiety-producing for me.

I used to have a real fear of heights and still do in the sense that I can always feel the fear there, but I can always contain it. A whole lot of hiking got me over it. When the path isn't wide enough for two feet beside each other and it's 100m down, one needs to deal. My worst fear would be worrying about what people think of me, though it's very much contextual. I love public speaking, for example, but I'm extremely reticent of asking for help.